Coworkers Assumed They're Invited…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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42522 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When they don’t get invitations, they will figure it out.

Be prepared to tell them “We are  having a small wedding and are unable to include everyone we would love to have with us. We you are sure you will inderstand.” Do not make any excuses about budget etc as there will always be those people who offer to pay for their meal.

Post # 4
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3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bluestockingbride:  My coworkers kind of did the same thing.  First I told them “well, if I invite a couple of you then I kind of feel obligated to invite ALL of my coworkers and that’s just not feasable”  then when they persisted (In the kind of joking/not so joking sense) I just told them NO.  There’s not room.  Sorry I’m not sorry.

Post # 5
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697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My coworkers aren’t doing this, thank god. Though my associate publisher has joked that he’s going to crash the wedding, but I know he’s only joking!

Post # 6
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry you have to deal with that, it stinks.  I’ve had a couple of people at my job do the same thing, but even go as far as tell me, “Maybe we’ll sneak in to watch the ceremony!”  Er, what?  I basically stopped talking about it around the office (a few co-worker friends are invited, but I obviously can’t invite everyone) and when those people ask questions about it, I just try to be as vague as I can.  It’s possible that some people don’t understand or realize how much work and funds go into guests lists and how we have to be careful and pay attention to the size of the list.  Still, total bummer.

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