- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I’m posting this anonymous, so im not a newbie to this site. I love it so much! Its helped me in the past, and im hoping you all can help me with this situation.
I recently got engaged, and couldn’t be happier. I have been the cheerleader in lots of people’s lives and been the person for them to lean on and have an ear. But lately, i’ve been pretty stressed at work because of two coworkers attempting to make my life a living hell.
I got a new position in a new department, and the women who are being rude used to be cool until I started working with them in “said department.” Now that im there, they always make snarky comments to me about other people in the department or are often mad when I sit with them to train because i do things my own way. I was told with the position that everything I do will be discretionary, and to do things the way that I am most comfortable with.
When I announced my engagement, one of the women promptly came over to “remind me not to celebrate.” She called my name, and then loudly announced something I apparently had made a mistake on. And walked back to her desk like it was SO IMPORTANT for her to say out loud.
The other day, really pissed me off. She was showing me how to do a few things, and was pretty upset because she assumed I didn’t know how to do them. And because I went over her head and did them before she asked me to, she basically rolled her eyes, and got really really upset. I got a balloon delivery congratulating me on my engagement. She got up from where we were and stormed out.
The other lady, she’s ok until she gets around the first girl. Otherwise, they are wholly unprofessional and very much known for being gossipers. We are all the same age. But since getting this new job and getting engaged, you would think this was high school all over again. Literally every time I discuss my wedding plans, she gets up from her desk just to come over and say something negative about my work.
I have been job hunting all weekend. I don’t want to leave. But I’ve been reprimanded for someone else’s behavior before because she gave the entire office hell and I spoke up to her. They moved that woman to another department and promoted me. Im not out to hurt anyone or cause trouble. I go to work just like everyone else and have enough to come home to as is. I just don’t think my bosses can make the situation better and neither can HR.
Any hope or ideas?