Post # 1
A couple of days ago, I wrote this post. In it, a bee gave me a great idea for upcycling a crib. (We are not expecting or TTC at the moment). We are in the midst of decorating our new home so I was excited at the prospect of turning the crib into something we could use whether kids are in the picture for us or not. I thought this might be the best way to please MIL by actually using it instead of turning it down after she had saved it for almost 40 years (it was DH’s).
I was talking with some coworkers about this at lunch today. I basically said I wouldn’t want to use the old crib because it was dangerous. The three of them (2 of which are moms) made me feel like an idiot for feeling that way. They basically responded, “we survived” and “how many kids you know have died because of cribs?” They made me feel really silly for not using it. I basically responded that I wouldn’t risk a child’s life to make MIL happy. I was shocked at their response.
I guess I’m just venting.
ETA: Since they responded so strongly I did some research when I returned to my desk and you shouldn’t use cribs older than 10 years by all the research I found.
Post # 3
Here, it’s illegal to sell something like that at a garage sale, so I don’t think you’re silly at all.
Post # 4
I’m sorry they were so negative. You are definitly right about the saftey. Its not just that an older crib was “made wrong” or not “designed for safety” a lot of it is about the wear and tear. After 20+ years, screws get loose, things get broken, and generally worn down. A crib that may have been perfectly safe when it was purchased may have too many loose parts to be safe now.
Post # 5
If this was a crib that was only a few years old it might be a bit silly to fret over it being dangerous, however this crib is 4 DECADES old! That’s a huge difference and I wouldn’t feel comfortable using it either. If it’s just been sitting unused for close to 40 years there’s no telling what kind of rust or rot has found it’s way into it.
Post # 6
Ignore people like that. I think that it it is cool that you are up-cycling the old crib. I have seen some of those done on pinterest and I so want to find an old one to do, but it is really sweet that it has sentimental value. Just go and do what you wanted to do with it, I think that it will be a lovely addition to your home.
Post # 7
yes we did survive, but honestly this is your child not therirs. dont do things that make others happy.. its honestly up to you if you want it..
Post # 8
Cribs, car seats, etc. baby items in general are always being recalled, yeah they may have lived but we are more aware now of what is “safe” and what isn’t. Screw them! You do what you have to for the safety of YOUR baby!!!!!!
Post # 9
I don’t know if you’re planning to make it into a bench or what, but that sounds like a great idea. Using itfor your kid, not so much.
But their comments do not sound that harsh. You need to get thicker skin. Once you’re pregnant everone has an opinion.
Post # 10
Yeah, I bet every baby that ever slept in this kind of crib survived and they just made it illegal for s**ts and giggles, because, you know, that’s how laws are made. *big eye roll directed at your coworkers*
Post # 11
@AprilJo2011: FWIW this crib has actually been banned!!
Post # 12
@NJmeetsBX: I know, that’s what I meant! I read your other post. How your coworkers don’t understand that the banning probably had something to do with babies being injured or worse is a mystery to me!
Btw, I like the upcycling idea!
Post # 13
The fact is safety standards evolved. No one had carseateases years ago. Should we not use them now? Just lay our kids in the backseat and pray? Or would they buy a car that didnt have seat belts or air bags just cause they didn’t always? No… They are being pretty narrow minded if you ask me. And they sound pretty typical of anyone who has done something already in life and think they know better than you.
Post # 14
Just ignore them, people think they need to have an opinion about everything.
Speaking of upcycling, do you have a dog? I think it could be a cute idea to cut the legs down and remove one side and make it a dogs bed.
If your MIL says anything about it just tell her that the crib is so no longer deemed safe but you have some other ideas for it.
Post # 15
@NJmeetsBX: Don’t worry about those ladies. You dont’ even know if children are in the cards, do you?
Can you post pics of the crib? Maybe we can help you come up with nifty ideas for using it in another way.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t be worried about using like, crib from kid #1 for kid #2, because I’d know what happened to the crip and how it was cared for. I would NEVER use a used crib from someone else, just like I’d never use a used car seat. You just don’t know what’s happened to it.