Post # 1
So awhile ago I thought I had a wedding dress, but after posting pics of it here you bees made me realize that it was too short and also a poopy band-aid color.
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Just kidding, it is a pretty dress but not quite right. Anyhow, rather than fussing with alterations I returned in and went back on the hunt.
I recently found online a company called Amsale that makes really pretty bridesmaids dresses. I’m looking specifically at lace G845L. And some other lacy ones. (Maybe like with Mercedes and BMW, the more number-y the name the more luxury the item? If I were a dress designer I would name my styles something people could actually say…)
They don’t sell these Amsale dresses online so if I want to look at it I apparently have to find a shop, and not only that, but the shops that sell them are wedding dress stores and you have to have an appointment! I made an appointment at the one closest to me for this Saturday. I might take my sis in law with me since I think she bought her dress from David’s Bridal and knows the drill. But just in case, please help me with boutique etiquette bees!
– can I wear makeup and deodorant?
– do I have to tip the consultant???
– are they going to be all pressure-y about trying on wedding dresses, when really I just want to try on the bridesmaid’s gowns?
– They made a big point on the phone of asking me my wedding date and so on. Wth do they care? I wish I could lie on the spot but I told the truth – if I do end up ordering a dress will they use that date as reason to take their time about ordering it? What should I look out for?
ETA here is the dress I’m looking at. If you have pics of them in action that would be cool:
This topic was modified 3 years ago by ohnatto.
Post # 2
ohnatto: That’s a really pretty dress! To answer some of your questions:
-Yes you can wear make up and deodorant. Some people even do their hair similar to their wedding style to help them get an idea for the overall look. Also if you plan on wearing heels, bring your wedding heels or a pair with similar height.
-I never tipped the consultant, don’t think you need to. But I also didn’t go to any really high end salons, just Davids bridal and a few local stores.
-If the consultant is pushing wedding gowns you don’t want to see, just say you are shopping for bridesmaid dresses, and aren’t interested. If they are good at their job though, they may be able to show you some gowns that are similar to what you are looking at the you like.
-For the wedding date thing, its because the designers tell the store how long it takes them to get them a dress. Not all dresses are sitting in a stockroom waiting to be shipped out. A lot of designers wait for the order to assemble the dress. If you fall in love with a dress that takes 3 months to come in and you wedding is in 3 weeks thats a big problem. They should have no reason to hold off on ordering it, most likely they just want the date to make sure you can get the dress in time.
Post # 3
Deifnitely wear deorderant. Some people say to avoid wearing makeup. I always wear makeup and definitely did on my bridal appointments, and no one said anything about it.
I never heard of tipping a consultant- that would be like tipping a realestate agent- they can commission when they make sales. I don’t think the wedding heels matters for picking out the dress. Most of the stock pieces are very long, and rarely will they have you wear shoes to protect their dresses. Definitely bring them when your dress comes in and for the fittings
That being said, yes many consultants will be pushy. Just be firm with them. The consultant I ended up purchasing my gown from wasn’t pushy at all, and after appointments with many that were, that was a huge selling point to me.
For the wedding date, they want to know when you need the dress. Each designer has a different lead time, and they won’t even show you dresses they can’t get in on time (why fall in love with something they can’t get you).
Post # 4
Yes to deoderant and also any undergarments/shoes that you think you might want to wear with your dress (i.e. heels or flats).
I would wear makeup if that’s what you’re most comfortable in — these consultants are experts are getting gowns on people. But I probably wouldn’t cake it on.
And agreed on the date — they just want to know what they’re time frame is. If it’s less than a few months, that can limit what they can show you. I think for most boutiques, it’s actually in their interest for the dress to come in as soon as it can because when the sooner it arrives, the more likely you’ll be more likely to buy a veil, accessories, or use any in-house tailoring, etc. through them.
I would actually call and request that the G845L dress be included in your appointment. That way, they’ll know to pull it and reserve it for your appointment. It will also give them a sense of what your general style is. I think most bridal consultants really appreciate when a bride comes in and knows what she wants; it saves everyone time, it gets you closer to your dream dress and they get closer to a sale. Amsale is a well-respected designer, so I would guess there’s a good chance you’ll have a positive experience.
Post # 5
Thank you for the responses!
I did tell them I was interested in the lace Amsale dresses. I wanted to make sure they had the one I wanted to see in particular in stock. They were confused by the fact that I was the bride but wanted to see a bridesmaids dress. I hope it isn’t a bad experience this Saturday.
From everyone’s explanations about how they don’t start making the dress until it is ordered in a certain size and color – doesn’t this make the whole experience of ordering a bridal gown several sizes too large so it can be tailored even MORE ridiculous? If they don’t start making the dress until you order it, they should be able to tailor it to your measurements like the China replica shops do. Especially since these dresses can cost thousands of dollars – it seems like common sense.
Post # 6
ohnatto: The sizing on wedding gowns is funky. You may be a 10 in your hips, an 8 in your chest etc. You order to fit your biggest area and then tailor to fit the smaller parts of your body. So you really aren’t ordering several sizes too big, you are ordering the correct size and making it for you perfectly. The china shops seem to do more custom orders, and have more variations in how your dress turns out. With the in store designers your gown will look exactly like the sample. They do this by having. set pattern for each gown, think more assembly line production where you get the same finished product just in different sizes. The china shops are more handmade no two items are exactly the same type places.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
I agree with PPs — tipping is not necessary here. it would be like tipping at the Gap. you might like david’s bridal. I think I have a similar style to you, and they have plenty of different dress styles to suit different tastes. I also found them to be low pressure. when I went, I lied and said it was my very first day dress shopping and that no matter what, I would not be walking out of there with a dress that day. I think that helped. also, they let you take photos, which many other dress shops don’t allow. good luck!