- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
my mother is going to drive me up the wall. she has been very quiet up til now….
Every bride knows that there are two sets photos, your fancy staged photos that will make it to your wedding album. then there are the random photos that you take with guest probably standing by their seat or something that will probably end up in a Facebook Album.
I told my mother that i wanted to have a picture with her, my dad, and myself because this will be the first time that all three of us has been in the same place in my whole life ( i found and met my dad for the first time at age 19 and since then i only had contact with, not my mom) My mom then says, “what about “B”?” (her BF/unofficial Fiance of two yrs) I said “what about him?” she wants him to be in my fancy staged Family/Wedding Party pics. I stated that i will include him in photos but not those. he will be in the guest photos. She got upset and stated that Im making him feel left out and if he cant take photos then she wont either. I told her fine, she doesnt have to (to call her bluff) I think that that is ridiculous for him to be in my family photos.
Her reasoning is that they are engaged and he will be my stepdad so he needs to be in some of the photos. my reasoning for him not to be is the fact that 1. she’s only dated him for two yrs, 2. they are unofficially engaged ,no date, no ring, no real proposal, 3. My mother has a bad track record with men and the fact that they are not married YET makes me uneasy to have him in lifelong photos.
She cant seem to understand that. she states that his family has accepted her with open arms and made her feel welcome in every single thing and now her oldest daughter is treating him cold. Thats not it… I actually like the guy. I think that he is great for my mother and i really hope this thing works with him, BUT the fact still remains that he is NOT my step father, he is NOT her husband, ive only been around him a handful of times WTF does she want from me?
She’s not even paying for anything in the wedding to be so demanding. My grandmother paid for my dress, my other grandmother paid for alcohol, my mother’s BFF helped with catering, cousins are helping with catering, i was gifted DJ, Photog, and Officiant. the boyfriend of my mother’s BFF is even gifting a limo. But my mother…. she hasnt paid not one dime.
if he wants to play step father so damn bad, he needs to pay for something dammit lol!!!