Crazy Aunt Rant (Kind of long)

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: How should I deal with her?
    Call her and ask if she is coming and try to get her to come. : (0 votes)
    Ignore her, but leave her on the list incase she comes. : (22 votes)
    96 %
    Ignore her and take her off the list since she said she isn't coming. : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Is said crazy Aunt the mother of the bm you said that to? I’d be annoyed if someone said that to me about my mom (who is nutty & we all know it). That said, from experience I say just act like she’s coming and ignore it.

    Post # 4
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    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    act like she is coming. i wouldnt deal with her drama personally anymore. if she talks to mom or cousins or anyone let them deal with it

    Post # 6
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    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Just ignore it. She sounds almost identical to my aunt – always needs attention and will create drama at any opportunity (plus pretends she is the greatest mother in the world even though none of her kids want anything to do with her…). She wanted to be the centre of attention at my wedding, too – got upset when I didn’t make her a bridesmaid (none of my aunts were BMs), wanted to knit me a wedding dress (yes, you read that correctly), wanted her long-term boyfriend to propose to her at my wedding, and wanted to be able to make a speech as my “oldest aunt and the oldest member of my dad’s immediate family at the wedding.”

    If the aunt really is as crazy as she sounds, everyone in the family will know how nutty she is, so I wouldn’t worry too much about trying to justify yourself. If you think it will help, maybe just mention that “She’s been a bit flakey lately, and the last thing I want is to book in to do nails (and pay for her appointment) without even knowing if she’ll show up. I’ve got a lot on my plate because I’m just about to get married, etc. etc.”

    Just ignore her – it sounds like she thrives off drama, so if she says she’s not coming, just say “Oh well, we’ll miss having you there. Hope you have a good weekend anway!” and leave it at that. Unless she actually tells you or your parents/MOH/someone responsible for wedding planning that you aren’t coming (i.e. you haven’t just heard it through the grapevine), assume she is coming

    Post # 7
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @MrsMath:  She didn’t tell YOU so her RSVP stands. She’s an attention whore, don’t give in. Assign BM Big Mouth the task of herding Crazy Aunt away from you as her punishment for speaking out of turn. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MrsMath:  ugh that does suck. The only good part about my own mom being the crazy one is that I’m able to tell her to get over herself.

    Post # 9
    Member
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d ignore it (don’t feed the drama) and assume she will attend. She hasn’t declined properly, I ignore hearsay.

    Post # 10
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    687 posts
    Busy bee

    Just assume she is coming. It seems like she has a pattern. She keeps changing her mind about going to these events and coming up with lame excuses to try and start drama, and then when you dont indulge her by getting all bent out of shape, she shows up anyway. There’s no way she is going to miss your wedding because that would be passing up a perfect opportunity to try and drum up some sympathy from others. Just leave her on the list and keep acting clueless about what she is doing/saying, and don’t say anything more about it to your big-mouthed cousin.

     

    Post # 11
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    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsMath:  i have craycray people in my family, and let me tell you, i have learned that totally ignoring them is ALWAYS the best solution. you have way more awesome and important things to worry about right now (your wedding AND TTC, how amazing!) that you should be able to focus your joy and attention on than what one nutjob is saying or doing.

    your approach is right; leave her on the list and as Dory says, ‘just keep swimming’.

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