(Closed) Crazy baby fever!

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I got a pet. That curbed it a little. But now my fiance has baby fever too and keeps telling me that if we conceive a baby this month, it will be born in the same month as him… I keep having to say “wait until after the wedding!”

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We set a timeline and I think it helped a lot. “Someday” feels like it will never come, but if you decide, for example, to try 6 months from now or once debt is cleared or whatever else then it feels more attainable.

Have you talked to him about how soon he’d like to try?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@moose91:  I check myself by thinking about reality. Babies are great and can be fun or cuddly or cute. 

But I am still young (almost 26, FI is 28) and we want to enjoy our 20’s by traveling, saving up for a home, sleeping in on the weekends, developing our careers.

Children are a long term committment. I honestly do not want to wake up at all hours of the night, constantly change diapers, give up my free time, etc. I want to be a mother and a good mother, and I will make those sacrifices when I am ready, but that is not now.

Oh, and I had crazy baby fever last year, and sometimes still do. But reality checks really help.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A timeline like a PP said is a good idea. If you have a general date in mine to start TTC you can work on your patience now and calm down a little. I have a date in a little under 2 years that I’d like to start. DH is fine whenever, he wants to be a young father b/c his was older and he wants to have more energy to keep up with his kids. We’re 25 now and will probably start trying when we’re 27. We have young couple friends who are engaged and married and it’s fun to be young now and enjoy our 20s  with them while we wait. We’re also enjoying being a little selfish now and working on our careers. We also have a home and are working on fixing it up and making it nice and ready for a family in a few years. Set some career, personal, financial goals while you wait and it will give you something to work toward while you look forward to the day you finish your goals and can start TTC when you are the most prepared for a baby.

(I also have a fish too and we won’t be getting any dogs or cats before kids.)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@maya2008:  Ditto.  I’m 26 in a few days.  I get baby fever every once in awhile.  Several friends of mine are expecting or have had babies… All I do is watch my nephew (2 YO in April) or volunteer to keep the church nursery one Sunday morning (3 toddlers for two hours will change your mind FAST.)

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@moose91:  get a puppy, sometimes this helps or any other kind of pet.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wish I knew! I have crazy baby fever right now. FI and I have decided to wait until July since we are getting married in July, but neither one of us want to wait. If it weren’t for the fact that I already have my dress we would just go for it. FI is trying to convince me to start TTC in June before the wedding. It doesn’t help that my sister told us she is pregnant last week and my cousin announced last night that his gf is pregnant. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with some previous posts, setting up a timeline worked wonders for my baby fever! DH thought I was crazy but it really did help. We also got a pet–not sure if that helped or not! haha… Love our dog, but she is a handful! It definitely got my mind off of it for a good 6 months though. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Good luck–i know it’s hard but try to enjoy this time together (easier said than done-haha)! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@moose91:  Interesting perspective. I see marriage as having many purposes, but not necessarily just to have children. Though I wouldn’t have children outside of marriage. I guess as long as you two are truly financially and emotionally prepared and ready to make the necessary sacrifices, then it’s the right decision. But I would see it as being more selfish if one is not really prepared and chooses to have a child (due to baby fever) rather than prolonging the decision.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m turning 24 this year, and just got engaged two weeks ago (we’ve been together for 6 years) and I have crazy baby fever too! Poor FI has to deal with me ooh-ing and ah-ing over baby stuff in pinterest and sighing, “I want a baby.” 

We’re definitely going for a 2014 or 2015 baby, just because it feels right, but still it’s so hard to wait! (he’s finishing up his degree in April). When I list the reasons why we shouldn’t have a baby now they seem like weak excuses, ha, crazy lady here! They also don’t allow dogs in our apartment. ๐Ÿ™

Excited for you! 

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