- Mya Rose
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
So now this is my second post of the week! i don’t get why things have to be so hard!
I am having serious issues with one of my bridesmaids who is also organising my bachelorette party. we were best friends on friday night and now we are worst enemies for some reason.
On Friday night she invited us to her house for dinner as we didn’t have any dinner plans….. it went well and everything was fine…..So it all started on Saturday night. a whole group of us were going out to a party and so we organised to have a few “pre-drinks” at out place. My bridesmaid sent me a text to ask how we were getting to the party and I said we would take a cab and i invited her over to ours for drinks… she said no and asked if the cab could pick her up on the way so I said it was really out of the way as she lives north of us and we were going South so I could already hear that she was irritated…
when i got to the bar, she was standing there with a friend and the vibe was really really cold… she was standing there with another friend at the time who made no attempt to even make any eye contact with me… not sure what their problems were. We actually invited both of them over for dinks and neither came….
then the whole night she completely avoided me and was stuck to this other friends side and did not speak to me or my fiance the whole night!
so I left the bar WITHOUT saying goodbye to her.
she send me a text asking me what the hell my problem is, why i didn’t invite her over for drinks?????? then she throws the fact that she invited us over to her house for dinner on Friday night in our faces??? and then she says that I left without saying goodbye to her? and that I avoided her the whole night?!!!!!
when i tried to call her (like 12 times) she completely ignored me, i sent her various texts explaining why i didn’t say goodbye to her based on her behaviour towards me… basically her view is that i didn’t say goodbye to her and that is totally unacceptable. I avoided her and everything was done wrong and it’s all my fault…
why didn’t she make an effort to speak to me? why is it all my fault? I told her that I am more than happy to resolve the issues if she can also acknowledge that she was wrong but she refuses. she says i must take full responsibility for my disgusting behaviour….
i have tried to get her to see things from my side but she is not interested. it’s all about her and how she feels…
so what do i di now? do i get my fiance to go over to her house and get the bridesmaid dress back?
is this the way to end a friendship? she won’t even try to be reasonable and see things from my side, she thinks its all in my head! i have shown the emails to my colleagues and my fiance and they have said she is loony!!
what am i going to do about my bachellorette party now?????? like i need the extra stress!!! my other bridesmaid lives overseas so i am not sure how easy it will be for her to take over…i may just have to ask another friend here to take over… i can’t believe it has come to this…
she keeps saying “either you want resolution or you don’t” but she doesn’t want to reolve it – she will feel that things are resolved only if i bow down to her and apologise…. it’s ridiculous… i told her that a friendship is not one sided….