(Closed) Crazy, crying, and covered in snot… and yet DH still loves me. Stupid exes.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

My goodness, you have a patient and sensitive husband.  🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

your dh loves you.  that’s all that matters.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That’s great, thanks for sharing.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

@GreenEyedMoon:  Because he loves you!  See, for you, these thoughts have been consuming you 24/7.  For him, it was just one conversation followed up by a cuddle.  Plus, he knows that girls can be a little….er, emotional on occasion.  No big thang!  It’s not like you do this every day, right?  😉

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have an “overactive imagination” too. What keeps me from getting myself all wound up is remembering that I have exes too, and compared to FI it would be laughable that he should have any jealousy. Of course I thought or did at the time love them, as he loved his exes but loving someone who isnt right for you vs “the one” is no comparison. If he hadn’t had the wrong ones he wouldn’t have know when the right one, you, was what he wanted. That’s why he doesn’t see communicating with L as a big issue. She was what she was.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Achk, that sounds so much like me sometimes.  I tend to get a little um, overanalytical over (putting it bluntly) shit that does NOT matter anymore.  SO has an ex who he considered a good friend, but nothing more than that (never loved her) that I kind of lose my crap over at times.  If any of his exes were seemingly inserting themselves into our life, you bet your sweet bippy I’d be losing it. 

We are lucky we have such patient men!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

I mean this in the least bitchy way possible, but sister you’ve got to get a grip.  Have you spoken to someone about this?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993
Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@GreenEyedMoon:  My husband acts like this sometimes and I have to be totally honest: though I have reacted like your husband, it eats away at me.  I finally snapped and told him this jealousy issue was going to be a big deal.

Once, twice, okay.  But eventually when you work so hard to create a breakdown in your relationship that does not exist, it will exist.

Do not only him a favor, but YOURSELF a favor and try to get help for this.  I think you will both feel much better.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@GreenEyedMoon:  I’m going to hope that the “exes only come up about once a month” was just part of the joke you were making!  I thought about this some more and read your OP again.  Last night I felt so sad that you were feeling so down and wanted to ease your mind, but today I feel more worried than anything else.

I don’t think your outburst had much to do with the ex as a person, but everything to do with how you feel about yourself.  Would you consider talking to a counsellor about your self esteem?  I totally understand that everyone has bad days here and there and that you’re just ranting on the internet, so please don’t take offence to what I’m saying.  But reading over your OP again….I don’t really think the stuff you’re upset about is “no big thing”.  It’s not healthy for you OR your DH.  Part of me thinks that your husband is sweet for comforting you, but part of me thinks he should have put you in your place and told you to grow up and stop being ridiculous.

Hopefully this was a one-time PMS-y sort of thing, but when you’re having nightmares and irrational thoughts, I just get a bit worried.  I hope you’re able to work it out in a healthy way (and not in a “you must delete her from your facebook and your life” kind of way)!

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