- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
This is my first post, but my sister swears by this site!
Ex-Wife 2- suicide attempt
BM A- pathological liar/ drug use, FH’s 20 year old half sister (who he had no contact with until a year ago)
BM M- Fh’s 15 year old half sister
So the man I am marrying comes from a family of chaos. Prior to getting engaged, they attempted to hide it; but since the ring, it has been in full force. This week, his stepmother (father’s second ex-wife) was admitted to the hospital for an alcohol and drug overdose but is fine. My FH’s half sister (and my BM BM A) “found” a suicide note from her mother that is strongly suspected of being forged by her claiming that the she attempted suicide because she can’t stand her daughter. Which I find highly unbelievable because for the past six months, she has been emotionally using me. She calls me after supposedly harming herself (which I found out she has been lying about). I have attemped to help her because of my own emotional struggles and I understand that pain. Her father (who my FH has not been in contact with in 10 years) was reached out to about his daughter and said he has tried to help her, but has no legal rights to her and due to her drug and theft problems has limited contact. Their younger sister does not want to live with them anymore, but says her older sister needs her. At this point, I want nothing to do with BM A (namely her to be a BM). She is nothing but a problem, but I do not want to lose BM M, who is a very sweet girl. FH’s feelings on the matter is that his stepmother is out to get BM A.
Add in his mother does not support a relationship with his stepmother or father, and has openly tainted his feelings about both of them because Ex Wife 2 broke up his parent’s marriage close to 25 years ago.
How do I express this to my FH that his sister has become more than I can emotionally handle, without him feeling like I am attacking her.
Note: My sister TOLD me not to ask BM so early, but I thought no way would family do this…so WRONG.