Crazy excuses to not attend a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Lol I would love to see people’s interesting excuses.  Ours were all very boring.  A couple people had to work and for some reason couldn’t get out of it, a couple others were out of the country.

ETA: The most interesting we had were: one grown up man had to go to a baby shower of someone he didn’t know with his foster mom, and one woman couldn’t come because she was on house arrest… 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@lolita39:  Ugh. One family just said oh that days not convenient for us. Umm neither of them work and its at least 3 months heads up! Another family rsvpd yes then said oh we invited friends over so we’ll have guests in town we can’t come unless we can bring our guests… Ppl I’ve never even met? I don’t think so! Goodness I got alotta dumb reasons from my side of the family but oh well!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@lolita39:  hah! No march 15th! They don’t like to drive so I think they figured they pass lol 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsRichard:  why would they invite guests over when they RSVPd to go to your wedding? oh the level of stupidity is mind boggling sometimes

Post # 8
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384 posts
Helper bee

My FI and I just got an invitation for a wedding, although I want to go and he doesnt because, “its hunting season” UGH *face palm* Its not my friend so were declining :/

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I personally don’t think people need an “excuse.” Saying no should be enough and I hate when I get pressed for further details. At that point, I will tell the truth I was trying to shield them from: I just don’t want to, I have something better to do, or I don’t want to spend the extra money right now.

Brides always get so upset when they realize that their wedding is only important to them (and their groom). People will continue to live their lives and do whatever they want to do. They are not obligated to attend any social function and they can spend their money wherever they see fit – even if you think their excuse is stupid.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@skipanther:  LOL, my FI would do something like that too. He would be happy if the world just consisted of our family. He’d do anything for my siblings, but our family always comes before friends.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lolita39:  We only invited close friends and family who wouldn’t miss our wedding for the world.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FIL’s side isn’t coming. We’re not sure the real reason but his cousin (who is in her late 40’s) and her fam isn’t coming with no real excuse and we think that’s why her mom isn’t coming. FIL is pissed as well as SO and I being hurt.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

One of my oldest and closest friends declined coming to our destination wedding because “She wanted to buy a new bike”…. Yeah… 15 years of friendship and I loose out to a bike. Oh well – her loss not mine.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

One of my friends RSVP’d yes and then no-showed. He said he had an anxiety attack. I have known this guy for 6 years- he has never had an anxiety attack before or since.

Another no-show said he ended up not coming because he didn’t have a job and smoked weed and didn’t want to face my parents if they asked what he has been up to. Seriously? It isn’t like my parents are going to whip out a drug test at my wedding PLUS YOU HAD A BABY, just show off some pictures and no one will care about your job status.

Silly boys.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve had one girl say she might not be able to make it because my wedding falls on her boyfriend’s birthday, and I have another friend getting knee surgery near-ish to the wedding, and she’s not sure if she’s going to be stitched up or not – might need to let the wound drain.  Gross and way too much TMI, but it is what it is.

However, this takes the cake.  When I was collecting addresses for my invites, I emailed two of my friends – they’d both moved around a bit and I didn’t have their current addresses.  It took a couple of methods of communication to get to them, and once I did one friend said that the two of them would not feel comfortable attending my wedding because I insisted on inviting another friend of mine, whom they didn’t like (differing life and religious views).  They had both assumed that I had chosen the other friend over them because I didn’t want to get involved in their squabbles.

While the fact that they won’t even consider coming to my wedding (I had even asked one of these girls to be a bridesmaid when I got engaged – I guess she forgot), I’m so glad I’m not going to have to deal with any stupid high school drama at my wedding.  Now, hopefully the family drama will calm down before then.

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