Post # 1
Hi everyone. I am rather new to the forum so forgive me if this was mentioned before (I couldn’t find anything via search). Anyway, most of the things for our wedding are already done (lol – I know – I’m a spaz). I got my dress, the centrepieces are purchased/ready to assemble, decor organized, vendors booked, etc. It’s all going super well.
My question is: is it weird to let my fiance have total control over his suit and the groomsmen’s attire? I don’t think so but so far everyone I’ve mentioned it to casually thinks it’s just weird and that I should pick everything, or at least have some input. (On a sidenote, I am getting sick of everyone’s opinions about what we are doing – I mean people in real life. Like… if I don’t ask for your opinion, keep your mouth shut! Ok rant over on that lol…)
I want to be just as surprised by what he picks as he is for what I picked for my dress….is that odd? I just figured he should get to pick what he wears too! Thoughts?
Post # 2
Alicia7: It’s not weird at all. It’s a little unusual because most couples want a cohesive look, and most grooms are happy for their bride to help choose the suits. But if you trust him – why not? There’s a big difference between “a little unusual” and “weird”.
And I agree with your side note. Why do people feel the need to offer opinions or criticise your choices? They can do it their way when it’s their turn. Now it’s your turn, do it your way.
Post # 3
Alicia7: I don’t see it as unusual for the groom to pick his outfit and the groomsmen’s outfits at all. In fact, I think it’s only fair that the groom has complete control over what he and his groomsmen wear if the groom doesn’t have a say in the bride’s dress.
It seems a little unusual that he’s surprising you with the outfit choices, but that’s just because it’s uncommon and it’s certainly not to the level of weird.
Post # 4
I was fine with my husband picking his own attire. It is his wedding too after all.
Post # 5
Not at all. After I told him the colour I wished the ties etc. to be (Ivory/white for DH and red for the others) he went off and chose it all. Colour and style of suit, waistcoat etc. He chose well and it looked lovely.
Post # 6
Why shouldn’t he be allowed to pick his own suit? I bet all those girls saying that didn’t/wouldn’t let their SOs have a say in what they wear to their own wedding, why should the bride get to tell the groom what to wear!
I’m letting my FI pick his own suit and tie. His tie (and the groomsmen’s) won’t even be the same colour as the bridesmaids because he didn’t want purple, he wanted green. So I let him do that. I’m just going to show him the colour of the bridesmaid dresses so that the green he picks matches the purple I pick.
Let people think what they want, it’s your wedding and they’ll get over it!
Post # 7
I think if you can trust someone enough to make a decision to live with them and commit to them forever, there’s something seriously wrong if you can’t trust them to pick a suit. It’s totally fine for your FI to pick his own attire, and hopefully many other things for your wedding. I feel really off about brides talking about ‘letting’ their grooms have a say in wedding planning. It is his day too!
Post # 8
I went with my DH to choose his and the GMs’ suits. We also took my Mother. It was his choice, as we were getting married in the UK and he’s not British, and he was afraid of making the “wrong choice” I was pretty glad we did go with him as he wanted to wear a top hat and my Mother quickly shot that down!! (He listens to her much more than to me!)
Post # 9
I sent my FI out to pick and said he could get whatever he felt most comfortable in. He went with his groomsman, picked out what he liked best and then, without me asking, he showed me and asked if I liked it too. Simple (and not weird)
Post # 10
Alicia7: It never occurred to me that anyone other than my FI would choose his suit! he knows the colour scheme and he has to wear the suit and to be honest unless he goes crazy I’m not sure what there is to be worried about. Suits are suits and pretty much come in different shades of black/grey, how much can it matter which he chooses?
Post # 11
Alicia7: He should pick what he wears. Wayyyy too many brides use their groom as a prop and take charge of everything he wears and does. It’s his wedding too. If he wants to wear lime green with purple polka dots he has the right.
Post # 12
Not weird at all, just been to a friends wedding where the groom picked his suit and it was a suprise from the bride and I thought it was sweet that he had no idea how she would look and visa versa. Let your man do the suits and have a suprise!
Post # 13
My husband had complete control over his and his groomsmen’s attire and he also wanted it to be a secret. He later told me what they were wearing because he was afraid he made a wrong choice for his groomsmen but I loved what he picked and told him to keep it. I actually find it weird when the guys have no say and just blindly wear what the bride wants them to.
Post # 14
Not weird in the slightest! He’s a grown man and I assume he knows what’s going on with everything else wedding-theme wise and that you’ve discussed thoughts so let him do it. I haven’t seen my fiance’s suit and don’t actually 100% know what he’s gone for but I’m sure he’ll look amazing and he is good with colour so I’m not worried. But then he has been involved in a lot of decisions, which has been lovely (he even helped pick the bridesmaid dresses and was certainly the one with opinions on what he’d like in that respect).
Post # 15
Not at all wierd! My FI said he wanted to chose, so he chose completely (although he did ask for my opinion on ties etc).
He’s an adult, and it seems like some people seem to forget that it is HIS wedding too!