Crazy Future Grandma-in-law (Vent)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just be glad she’s old…. lol

Post # 4
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Luckily for my husband we live a couple hours from most of my family, because I have the crazy grandparents! 

(He is Chinese, American born)  The first time they met was Christmas, he arrived late because he was celebrating with his family 45 minutes away.  We hadn’t been dating a year, no big deal – he came for half of Christmas.  He just sat on the floor in the living room because there were no open chairs.  Grandma asked if they had tables and chairs at home, if they ate on the floor.  Bless him, he said no, we have normal furniture, it’s Koreans and Japanese that sometimes eat sitting on the floor, but still at a table, and we’re pretty American anyway. 

My Grandpa volunteers to pack boxes for Radio Bible Class, and once we mysteriously got an Our Daily Bread in Chinese in the mail….

Post # 5
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can I just ask… why isn’t grandma allowed a facebook? You seem very bewildered by this!

Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

DH has some relatives who are just pretty rude.  Grandma wouldn’t RSVP, it took a few phone calls, she had forgotten about our wedding and had another relatives (not her grandchild’s) in mind.  She said she would come.  She didn’t, we sent a DVD of the ceremony and a favour to her (I did this for some relatives of mine too).  We didn’t get a card, phone call, nothing.  She didn’t say anything about our wedding the next time we saw her either.

The first time I went out to the farm to meet her, she wouldn’t come out of the house to meet me.  I couldn’t go inside because of animal allergies.

Other relatives wouldn’t shake my hand when I was introduced to them and said nice to meet you, etc.

Luckily the family DH is closer to are much nicer!

Post # 7
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsRs:  +1  


Post # 8
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@jeg14:  OH man. She sounds like a handful! Thankfully, none of SO’s family are too crazy (so far). His mom is pretty sensitive and she used to live with him. She has parkinsons and some dementia, so it was rough with just the two of them and him working long hours. I guess he used to get snippy with her. So for the first YEAR we were together she would constantly ask him if he was “being nice” to me and when I’d see her she would ask multiple times if he was being nice or if he ever yelled at me. My SO is seriously the nicest person ever and I think he’s snipped at me twice in our whole relationship- and that was when we were moving and literally totally broke (like didn’t have a dollar between us). 

Anyway, I finally told her one day that I used to fight with boyfriends, too, just like SO (apparently) used to yell or be mean, but together we don’t do those things and that’s how I know it’s right. She seemed to really like that and has since stopped asking me about how he treats me. But sometimes I tease him that if he’s mean to me I’ll tell his mommy. 😛

Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jeg14:  Lol I am sorry you are marrying into this! I like my GMIL for the most part. She can be slightly overbearing because, well, she is MIL’s mom, but I don’t see her often.

At my bridal shower my MOH was working so hard at getting everything set up, and my GMIL was telling HER what to do and telling her how to decorate and all this. My friend, God bless her soul, looked at my GMIL and said, “Back off, lady. I have it handled.” Whew, lol.

Post # 10
133 posts
Blushing bee

@jeg14:  Your fiance needs to do a way better job of standing up for you. And what’s wrong with grandma having a facebook? 

Post # 12
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i didn’t know it was illegal for old people to have facebook accounts.

Post # 13
1499 posts
Bumble bee

Hahaha sorry to laugh but on the outside it sounds pretty funny. Just cherish her for the last years she is around!

Also, to PP I don’t think that she is saying it is illegal for an elderly woman to have a facebook, but that for a very right wing, traditional woman of her generation, it isn’t the most common thing for her to be computer savvy.


Post # 16
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh, no! My GMIL is a really sweet (but crazy) old lady who likes to tell GRAPHIC stories about her traumatic miscarriage of twin boys at 5 months and about how if you gain more than 15lbs while pregnant, you have “A baby like Thom and need 45 stitches!”

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