Post # 1
Is anyone else inheriting any crazy in-laws? I do not like my FI’s grandma– of course, no one knows that except me (and my mom because she has to deal with the stories). His grandma is a VERY right-wing, religious, tea party, “it is the end of the world” type of person. She has a facebook (a FACEBOOK!) and posts crazy conspiracy theories (I have since made it so that her posts will not show up on my wall). I don’t want to completely delete her from my friends list since the family would know something was up. She used to comment on everything I would post. I once posted a Beyonce video and she told me that Beyonce is evil & I need to be more knowledgeable about role models (wtf). I have since blocked her from seeing my posts.
A few weeks ago my FI & I went to visit his family (luckily they live 6+ hours away). While we were at his grandma’s house, she gave him snacks and a drink and did not give me anything. Then, she told me to take out her garbage & newspapers. I came back in and she sent me to the other room to sew a pillow (again, wtf). It was so awkward. My FI kinda laughed awkwardly and said I didn’t have to do anything and grandma said “Of course she doesn’t have to, but she can help this old lady out.”
When we got engaged, his grandma called and congratulated him. When he passed the phone to me, she told me that she is praying for me and hopes that I make good choices. Then she told me that she hopes that the two of us will stay together. Huh? She also calls him by both his first & middle names. If I call him by just his first name, she will cut me off and correct me every time by saying, “You mean my grandson, ______ _______?”
There are just so many things his grandma does that makes me vow to never move within a 2 hour radius of her house haha. Just needed to vent! Anyone else want to vent about in-laws? The crazier the better!
Post # 3
Just be glad she’s old…. lol
Post # 4
Luckily for my husband we live a couple hours from most of my family, because I have the crazy grandparents!
(He is Chinese, American born) The first time they met was Christmas, he arrived late because he was celebrating with his family 45 minutes away. We hadn’t been dating a year, no big deal – he came for half of Christmas. He just sat on the floor in the living room because there were no open chairs. Grandma asked if they had tables and chairs at home, if they ate on the floor. Bless him, he said no, we have normal furniture, it’s Koreans and Japanese that sometimes eat sitting on the floor, but still at a table, and we’re pretty American anyway.
My Grandpa volunteers to pack boxes for Radio Bible Class, and once we mysteriously got an Our Daily Bread in Chinese in the mail….
Post # 5
Can I just ask… why isn’t grandma allowed a facebook? You seem very bewildered by this!
Post # 6
DH has some relatives who are just pretty rude. Grandma wouldn’t RSVP, it took a few phone calls, she had forgotten about our wedding and had another relatives (not her grandchild’s) in mind. She said she would come. She didn’t, we sent a DVD of the ceremony and a favour to her (I did this for some relatives of mine too). We didn’t get a card, phone call, nothing. She didn’t say anything about our wedding the next time we saw her either.
The first time I went out to the farm to meet her, she wouldn’t come out of the house to meet me. I couldn’t go inside because of animal allergies.
Other relatives wouldn’t shake my hand when I was introduced to them and said nice to meet you, etc.
Luckily the family DH is closer to are much nicer!
Post # 8
@jeg14: OH man. She sounds like a handful! Thankfully, none of SO’s family are too crazy (so far). His mom is pretty sensitive and she used to live with him. She has parkinsons and some dementia, so it was rough with just the two of them and him working long hours. I guess he used to get snippy with her. So for the first YEAR we were together she would constantly ask him if he was “being nice” to me and when I’d see her she would ask multiple times if he was being nice or if he ever yelled at me. My SO is seriously the nicest person ever and I think he’s snipped at me twice in our whole relationship- and that was when we were moving and literally totally broke (like didn’t have a dollar between us).
Anyway, I finally told her one day that I used to fight with boyfriends, too, just like SO (apparently) used to yell or be mean, but together we don’t do those things and that’s how I know it’s right. She seemed to really like that and has since stopped asking me about how he treats me. But sometimes I tease him that if he’s mean to me I’ll tell his mommy. 😛
Post # 9
@jeg14: Lol I am sorry you are marrying into this! I like my GMIL for the most part. She can be slightly overbearing because, well, she is MIL’s mom, but I don’t see her often.
At my bridal shower my MOH was working so hard at getting everything set up, and my GMIL was telling HER what to do and telling her how to decorate and all this. My friend, God bless her soul, looked at my GMIL and said, “Back off, lady. I have it handled.” Whew, lol.
Post # 10
@jeg14: Your fiance needs to do a way better job of standing up for you. And what’s wrong with grandma having a facebook?
Post # 11
ohhhhhh my goodness this lady takes the cake!
Post # 12
i didn’t know it was illegal for old people to have facebook accounts.
Post # 13
Hahaha sorry to laugh but on the outside it sounds pretty funny. Just cherish her for the last years she is around!
Also, to PP I don’t think that she is saying it is illegal for an elderly woman to have a facebook, but that for a very right wing, traditional woman of her generation, it isn’t the most common thing for her to be computer savvy.
Post # 14
Haha! Nothing is wrong with a grandma having a facebook, my emphasis was on the fact that her facebook page is outrageous! I should have made it clearer. It is full of pictures of kittens & puppies and then she threatens to use her gun to shoot certain political figures! She is also 89 years old, so I actually applaud her ability to work new technology!
I can look back and laugh at these little moments (and I’m sure I will miss her when she is gone) but in the moment I am just aghaust at her behavior haha. She is the craziest lady I have even met! And my FI agrees!
Post # 15
I’m loving reading other stories about in-laws 🙂 keep ’em coming!
Post # 16
Oh, no! My GMIL is a really sweet (but crazy) old lady who likes to tell GRAPHIC stories about her traumatic miscarriage of twin boys at 5 months and about how if you gain more than 15lbs while pregnant, you have “A baby like Thom and need 45 stitches!”