(Closed) Crazy people

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

so rude. I’ve had a few of them and they are met with an equally rude (but appropriate given their question) response of you didn’t get an invite because you’re not invited.

Post # 5
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9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

YOU are not crazy.

THEY however, on the otherhand

ARE VERY RUDE

Cannot believe what people say before they think these days 8-} *Rolls Eyes*

People think Etiquette is old-fashioned… BUT gosh darn whatever happened to common sense and manners ???

 

Post # 6
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve had several people ask about being invited. One I just let go, since that’s just how she is (this was before FI asked her husband to be in the wedding party). Others, I just kind of ignored it. Blah. I don’t even see these people/talk to them about the wedding ever!

Post # 7
Hostess
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@soccergal7898:  very rude… but to be honest you may noticed that most of these people that say such things are unmarried. So to give them a little credit for not knowing the proper etiquet or knowing how stressfull a wedding can be with guest list, i try to slyly tell them that we are not sure about the wedding list and/or we are only having a few ppl…unfortunately we cannot have all the ppl that we want there (making them feel like they are wanted , even if they are not, will make it easier to hear)….

but there are some ppl who persit in asking, then that is when my not so gentle side comes out and I ask them “are you aware of how much a wedding costs?! We cannot invite everyone sorry!” – havn’t gotten to this point quite yet… but I am close to saying this with one particular person. 

 

Post # 8
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@This Time Round:  what I find annoying is that us brides are expected to act with the utmost of ettiquite yet guests or wannabe guests can act like flat out hillbillies.

Post # 9
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9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@meetmethere2013:  true enough.  Sadly, as teaching children proper manners is less and less a concern for many parents (the “free form” attitude) in the end WE as a society end up with a large population who is clueless, and downright RUDE to other people.

It only really becomes acutely apparent when someone is trying to organize an event like a Wedding just how bad things have become… be it the begging for Invites, or the forwardness / inappropriateness of “very personal” Questions.

And being an aware Bride… as you say doesn’t make it any easier to handle.

I myself as a Bride-2-B have been put on the spot in some situations where I’ve had to make the less than best choices just to appease the masses (the social group I was with).  Including opening presents in public… which made me very uncomfortable… but it was much better than making a Dear Friend / Host feel snubbed… so I did it.  Sometimes in this modern society you just have to grin and bear it (or as another Bride so aptly said recently… “I just smiled thru the whole fiasco it was all I could do given the circumstances”)

 

Post # 10
Member
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I had one “I’m invited, right?” which was super awkward because he was a close friend but we were just planning on doing an immediate families only thing. But then we changed our plans to a DW and so the answer became yes.

Post # 11
Member
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

I’ve had people ask, flat out, so are we invited? The biggest culprit is someone I gchat with every month or so but very rarely see. I just keep saying that we haven’t finalized the guest list, parents have taken over so had to cut some friends, etc etc. His response was, ‘well why did you let your parents invite their friends, I wouldn’t do that. It’s your wedding, you should invite all your friends.’ Pay to play, sir, pay to play. It’s just frustrating because I wish we could invite everyone, but it’s not financially or logistically possible and I feel like an ass telling him no. Although I suppose he is the ass for asking, but….. ugh.

Post # 12
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

One of my grad school classmates said “I better be invited!” after I got engaged. I see her once a week, during class, why the hell would I invite you to my wedding? It would be much different if we hung out outside of class, but we don’t.

Post # 13
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402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Ugh!  I know what you mean!  I am having a really small wedding, and a cousin of mine, who I am not overly fond of nor do I hang with, is not invited.  I had been talking with my mom about it when we were out walking, and said cousin’s ex overheard me.  Next thing I know, she is asking my dad why she isn’t invited to the wedding!  I think it is so presumptuous just because you have the same blood or known someone for years means they are invited to the most important day of your life.  This cousin brings drama whereever she goes, and only wanted an invite since she assumed, incorrectly, that there would be free booze.

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