(Closed) Crazy Schedules Interfering!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Date night once a week. Make a plan. Stick to it. This is pretty typical in couples who dont have the same work schedule. You just make time for it and prioritize, even if you don’t get to “see each other” all that often.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Okay not to get into a tmi area and if you don’t want to respond absolutely no problem (dif people have different comfort levels, totally cool)… 

are you still making time for sex? It’s super hard when you’re tired all the time but I find that if I find myself not making time for it we start to snap at each other a little bit. Just one night and everything just seems… better. 

I don’t mean to say that sex is the answer for a real problem, but sometimes when schedules collide and everyone is so busy it falls by the wayside and you miss that intimacy and emotional connection you’d otherwise be getting. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

FI got told today at like 1:30 that he had to work through the evening… then over night… and possibly be away until Sunday or Monday. That’s lousy 🙁 We just make sure we make the post out of every moment we DO have together and we be sure to plan “dinner” or “date” nights once a week. A few days of missing one another can be mde easier when you remember that you have the rest of your lives together…

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I second (or third?) the idea of date night!  we always try to get out and just do something/eat out somewhere/even stay in and not talk about wedding stuff =)

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

yeah i know this schedule very very well… M is off work on Friday, Saturday and Sunday but he still has the club. it’s the only time we get to talk and he’s usually sleeping from running himself ragged.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Eh, the funks. I nkow the feeling. After years of trying with my husband, i give up. Honestly, he is better off just completely left alone. When i get in my funks, things cheer me up (flowers, something thoughtful) but they don’t suddenly make me jump out of my funk. Usually takes a week or two. He just sounds heavily burdened, exhausted, and like he needs a break. I think the weekend will be nice. Don’t owrry too much, this sounds totally normal to me. Somtimes i get so “Bleh” about everything too

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

aw… well it does really sound like its just something going on with him and has nothing to do with you or your relationship. Sounds like you’re doing the best thing for him… giving him some space, being supportive, and doing nice little things to let him know you’re thinking about him. I’d just let it go for a few weeks. If things continue this way though after a few weeks, I’d (very very gently) suggest he see a therapist. At that point it could be some sort of depression (again, not related to you… just a chemical thing). But its way too early to worry about that prob. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My FI and I have this schedule pretty much four days a week.  We both work full time and go to grad school.  We tried to make our schedules this semester so that they would coincide, but we ended up with opposite schedules.  Go figure.

Do you eat dinner when you get home that late? (we do)  If so, eat at the table and not in front of the TV.  Then you’ll have a little while to chat and catch up.  Or go to bed “early” so that you have time to snuggle and chat.  Or go for a walk together when you get home.

I know what it’s like to have this kind of schedule and we’re likely stuck with it for another year!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@AKennedy: The House Bunny is on watch instantly (just checked) and it is hysterical.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@AKennedy: It’s def not a chick flick either.  FI took me for date night…and he ended up laughing harder than I did.  Anna Faris is just so entertaining ;o)

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