Post # 1
My future sister in law got married in June and had a small ceremony of about 15 people, but didnt invite her brother (my fiance) or myself. The wedding was kept secret from us which really hurt my fiances feelings. He could not believe she would invite friends and family but deliberately exclude him.
Apparently she decided the small wedding was not enough and planned a more traditional wedding in two the months that followed which was held two weeks ago… we were actually invited this time. Then yesterday she called my fiance and told him that she is disappionted in the wedding gift we gave her, saying she expected more money from us! I am completely shocked and offended by this! We werent even invited to her real wedding but she is giving us a specific dollar amunt that she expects as a gift!! I want to call her to talk to her about it but I dont want to make things worse. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 2
Let your husband deal with your stupid sister in law. Just be happy you aren’t part of the same blood line….
Post # 3
amcx: Take the high road. Ignore her. Nothing good can come from you confronting her.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t waste a single second speaking to someone this stupid. She’s classless and you should move on..
Post # 5
I agree with all of the above. Don’t even engage with her.
Post # 6
amcx: Don’t even acknowledge it with her. If she’s that unhappy with the gift she can write out a check and give it back to you.
Post # 7
She called your FI and is his sibling, this is his battle to fight. Unless she came bitching to you, I’d stay out of it.
Post # 8
Just email her a link to this thread and let the comments do the talking….
Post # 9
I would completely stay out of this. Let your husband handle it. I, obviously, think it’s extremely rude for her to call up and say that your gift wasn’t enough. But don’t stoop to her level. Let your husband deal with it, but if I was giving advice to your husband I woudl recommend to not give her any more money, but don’t turn it into drama. Just say, “sorry it wasn’t what you were expecting. Congratulations on getting married. Hope you have a great marriage. I gotta go get that chicken out of the oven – later!” There is nothing to be gained by calling her out and will just lead to drama, so why bother?
Post # 10
Sounds like wedding #2 is a money grab and I wouldn’t put much time, stress or money into it at all. Should’ve been considerate and done it right the first time if thats what she wanted
….not that there’s anything wrong with having a second “wedding” later she just seems to be doing it for the wrong reasons.
Post # 11
amcx: you don’t say anything and you let him handle it. its not your place. I know its hurtful what she said but just support your fiance and let him vent to you. But don’t open your mouth to her.
she is a wench for saying such a thing!
Post # 12
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
WOW! I would say she is lucky you two gave her anything at all. I do agree that you should definitely not say anything. If anyone does it should be your fiance.
Post # 13
Wierd. Let your husband handle it and stay far away from that loony woman.
Post # 14
What a bitch move. Leave her to it. If she can’t stretch an original invite to you then why should you stretch to aore expensive gift.
Even if you were loaded with cash and it was her original wedding, tough she should be dn grateful for every pound/dollar spent on her because a gift is a blessing not a demand.
I would call her up on it but not make a huge fuss. Just drop it in casually, next time you see her be like ” oh I’m sorry you were a wee bit disappointed with our gift but we didnt think you’d want a massive fuss as it was hard to shop for someone’s second wedding when we weren’t invited to your first so we didn’t know where everyone stood on gifts and didnt want to blow out as thats what your actual weddings for, which we didn’t recieve an invite for which is a shame because we’d of loved to have been there for you guys”
see what she has to say dor herself.
Good luck xx
Post # 15
amcx: Ugh some people! I would seriously want to say something too because I always feel the need to put people like that in their place but it probably is best to leave it be. Although if she brings it up with you directly, I think you should say something.. I sure would!