Crazy stepmom of the groom – VENT

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1353 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@moiraine:  

Should have told her ‘well, it’s a courthouse- I’m sure I could have these people escorted out.’

What a bitch. I hope your FI puts her in her place.

Ugh, she sounds horrible.

Post # 4
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I’m sorry you’re having to put up with this! I hope your FH did have a word with her, what was the verdict?

If she brings it up again, maybe point out that you won’t be embarrassed having people you barely know removed by security, but she’s going to have to work out how she’d feel about it, since they’re her friends.

Post # 6
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

WHAT? I would have a talk all together. It sounds like there’s a lot of talking around each other going on without confronting her craziness. 

Post # 8
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Who all goes to counseling? Your FI and your stepmom? If so I would ask if you could be included. I would ask everyone to sit down – stepmom, FI, FFIL and you – and talk about boundaries in your relationship.

Post # 10
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1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m so sorry. My FI’s stepmom is acting crazy about the wedding as well – refering to it as our “first wedding” and trying to invite all of her family even though we are having a small wedding and can’t afford it. I don’t have any advice because I can’t figure out how to deal with her either but I sympathize.

Post # 12
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@moiraine:  Will this offend FI’s biological mother? If it will, he needs to have her bake her own bread.

Is she still insisting that her 10 guests come to the ceremony?!

Post # 13
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Does your FIs real Mom not have a bit of a higher ranking when it comes to this kind of stuff? She is the one that birthed him right?

Post # 15
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@moiraine:  I don’t know how things work where you are, but here in America we have sherrifs who keep the courts civil.

At this point, if FI will not talk to her, you need to tell her in no uncertain terms her guests are NOT allowed and you will have them removed. Can you have a court person come to your home and perform the ceremony with just you and FI and your mothers?

She needs to be stopped. No baking bread for guests. Nothng. She is not the mother.

Post # 16
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630 posts
Busy bee

@moiraine:  does your courthouse have a sign in procedure or anything? If so, give a list to security or whoever works the signing in process with the approved people. If not implement a sign in of some sort! She wanted to know how you’d stop them!

Other option – have the guests you want come early (don’t let FI’s step mom know about this) so that the room’s at capacity when her guests arrive.

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