- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I was in an LDR for about a year and a half. We met when we were 15 and 16 in Florida on vacation. Had an incredible 2 days together, just kissed goodbye. This was in 2002.
We kept it touch. Started dating in 2005 at 6 hrs apart. Amazing relationship. Intense beyond words. We broke up because of the distance, and he was getting ready to start an intense college summer program.
Fastforward 2 years later. I’ve been in a hideously abusive relationship since 4 months after LDR guy and I split.
Went down to see LDR guy after bad boy and I split up. This was May 09. Got some closure, just didn’t “feel” the same and LRD guy didn’t want to commit. Had planned on going down there, sparks fly, and we get back together.
Just a few weeks later, I met the guy I am currently dating and are more than likely getting engaged within the month. I’ve planned a bit of the wedding already. I am 100% convinced this is who I want to marry. It is logical and he is going to make a beautiful life partner. We are compatible and have the same views about many of the important things: money, children, religion, morals. He treats me the way I truly need to be treated. I have no doubts.
We do not have the emotional intensity that LDR guy and I had, but that is something I am okay with. Like, LDR guy and I are very emotionally similar – on the same “deep level”. Boyfriend or Best Friend “gets” my emotional intensity but is not “like that”.
LDR guy and I keep in touch over Facebook and the occasional text or call. Boyfriend or Best Friend knows, bothers him just a little, but knows it is absolutely harmless because I am very open with him about it. I see LDR guy as a very close old friend. Although there are things I do miss about him, I can see that we would not work out because of certain qualities he has. Although, we have never been in an adult “normal” relationship, so how could I truly know that.
Yesterday, my mom was talking to me about “signs”. She REALLY believes in these. So does her boyfriend, something she just found out they have in common.
Earlier in the week, I randomly started reading a book.Haven’t picked up a book in over a year. It is by an author LDR guy introduced me to who became my all-time favorite.
Tonight, I flip on American Idol (which I never watch). A song is being sung that sorta kinda reminds me of LDR guy, which I thought was a little weird. The very next song was a song that REALLY reiminds me of LDR guy. Like, crazy emotional meaning. Both are pretty darn obscure songs. Hadn’t heard the second one in a year or two.
This has moved me deeply. Like, I had tears down the face, got butterflies in my stomach and went outside to smoke a cigarette and was shaking. It was overwhelming.
I kept myself from writing an email to him right then, because I almost did. I was too caught up in the moment and was concerned about the morality of it concerning Boyfriend or Best Friend.
My mom said to e-mail him tomorrow when I’ve had time to collect my thoughts.
What do you Bees think? HELP!