Crazy/competitive wedding comments by single friends?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

People will say a lot of stupid things to you – single or not. Now that I’m married people make comments about “not getting the milk for free anymore.” d

Your friend surely has ideas about what she will have but when reality hits…she’ll face reality! Maybe she’ll have a 3ct moissanite ring and a David’s Bridal gown…just ignore her. She’ll grow up one day. In reality, she is probably trying to find a way to connect with you in conversation and show empathy/kinship/connections and doing so in a very awkward way.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@PromiseRooster:  Are you sure you haven’t made any comments that can be interpreted as you rubbing your engagement in her face? I knew a girl who was projecting some type of relationship insecurity on every attached but unengaged friend and thought everyone was jealous of her (they weren’t). Maybe she is supportive and happy for you, just not in a warm fuzzies kindof way. Before I was engaged, one of the main reasons we were waiting was so that we could afford my 2.5 ct diamond-I never said anything about it, but it wouldn’t have been out of the question for me to.

Or maybe since she’s not engaged, the only way she can relate is by talking about her future dream wedding. 

Perhaps she also thinks you are making a mistake and is trying to subtly let you know. 

Bottom line is that I think you’re reading way too much into this.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a friend who already married, as i am to. We are having our ceremony later this year. She just turned into a different person so i dropped her, she was my bestfriend

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, your friend sounds super annoying.

I didn’t get married young so I didn’t deal with this, but I could imagine that when most people haven’t actually hosted a wedding they’d have some really unrealistic expectations.  Like back when you were in highschool and you figured that you’d retire at 30 or something.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Haha, this is my sister. My little sister does this ALL THE TIME. She and her boyfriend have been together for 5 years and she found it odd that my fiance and I had been together only for 8 months before he proposed.

She’s been making all kinds of snide little things ever since, but I know she’s excited for me, but just a lot more excited for her own when it happens.

And mine blatantly states that her ring better be more that $20,000.

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@PromiseRooster:  Not weird competitive comments like that (honestly just makes your friend sound shallow and in it for the wedding/ring over the marriage) but I do get annoying comments as far as “oh your doing THAT no no do this instead” from people who have not planned a wedding. Its kind of like oh okay thanks for that….FSIL and FBIL got engaged a month after us but have yet to set a date and she constantly says jdugy things even though she has yet to plan a single detail. For instance she told us no one likes edible favors (we are doing philly pretzels for $50 for 100 pretzels plus dipping sauces) and everyone wants a keepsake with your name and the date on it (she wants $300 of wine glasses)…judging by SEVERAL posts here that is not true. I am all for do what works best for you but to say your ideas are better than someones drives me crazy. If she wants wine glasses with names and dates thats cool but that doesnt make our edible favors any less awesome to us

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@PromiseRooster:  I have one friend who gets to me like this in particular. She and I were both with our SO’s for a while, but mine proposed first (they had been together longer, though). My FI is a few years older than the rest of us and had been in the working world for a bit longer, so he had the means and decided to propose. She got really weird after that. Now all I hear from her is competitive wedding bullshit. She asked me where we are going for our honeymoon and telling me that they have plans to go to Switzerland. Oh, and they are getting married the week after me. And when she saw my engagement ring (which is not small by any means), she asked if I would be getting a wedding band to make it look bigger. She proceeded to tell me about how he must propose in a certain way and that he better drop at least 10k on the ring. 

 

You are not alone, friend. People get jealous/get opinionated/get judge-y

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@JackiBean:  MINE TOO! Mine is older than me and has only been with her boyfriend for about a year. She constantly makes “Well at my wedding….” or “I’m not doing this traditional crap you are at my wedding….” remarks. UM – you’re not even engaged!!!!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@PromiseRooster:  Lol I’m sure.

I priced an Elie Saab in Paris (Katy Perry’s dress) and it started at 45K.  

So this bitch wants 3 carats and an ES dress?  I hope she’s a professional gold digger.

Post # 14
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5277 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

FBIL “gf” did that and stillll does. Was so anti ring and wedding but as soon as I got my upgrade, she ran out and bought a carat solitaire( mine is outdated according to her and it is quad cut)  and I found out via FB they were “engaged” . She even started her planning process during the middle of mine and set a date one month right before ours… Took it to the point as to almost buy a dress just like my bridesmaids too. I literally was so stressed out I pushed mine back. Since then no wedding for them and admitted to me she did it bc she was jealous of us. Oy vey! Anyways. focus on what you and your FI have. Not others:)   Haters gonna hate lol! Jk jk  But for real. I am sure you will be stunning and your ring /dress will be too!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would have such a hard time not snorting at her plans of a 3+ carat ring and crazy expensive dress. I would be slightly annoyed, too. 

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