Creative Way to Announce Engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@amyeb25:  I can think of a cute way to announce it to your parents. If you’d like your dad to walk you down the aisle, you can make him a card or something asking him to walk you down the aisle, have him open it with your mom and you and your FI there, and let him put the pieces together. 🙂

As far as mailed engagement announcements go, I think it’s a bit odd and would likely come across the way you DON’T want it to. It would probably be more appropriate to call the ones you want to and let your parents spread the word to the rest of the family.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I just wrote on FB that he had proposed (while we were on vacation in NY) and we got around 100 likes and comments, which was really great. We made sure to let our closest relatives/friends know first, which was great to share. My advice would be, don’t overthink it too much, it’s one of those moments when you get to shout from the rooftops – you’ll probably be so excited that you’ll be screaming all over the internet ten minutes after it happens. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Traditionally, Engagements were announced in the Local Newspaper’s Social Pages… so as to indicate both a change in Social Status for a couple, as well as to just generally announce some “Good News” for a Family

Such Announcements were usually published at the time of the Engagement, or anywhere up to a year before the Wedding Date (once it was known)

Save The Dates, have pretty much replaced this tradition.

Save The Dates were dreamed up by the Wedding Stationery Industry as a way to make more money quite frankly… in so much as Wedding Stationery is a very lucrative business !!

Save The Dates are traditionally sent out to people who would be invited to the Wedding itself (hence the phrase “Save The Date”)

This is WHY they can also be awkward at times… because they imply someone is being Invited to the Wedding… altho they are nothing more than a hand-bill / flyer announcing an upcoming event

Which is also WHY that they truly should only be sent out once a B&G have worked thru the most important elements of their Wedding Plans:

  • Date
  • Budget
  • Wedding & Reception Locations
  • Wedding Guest List
  • And that their Date, Guest List, Venues and Budget all mesh…

Anotherwords don’t send out 100 STDs expecting to have a Wedding for 200 People, if in fact you only can afford to have a venue that accommodates 100, and food for 50 (in which case you truly are looking at a Wedding Reception for 50 not 200 People !!)

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So what to do when you want to tell the WHOLE world ?

Well in your case you could indeed take out a good old-fashioned Engagement Announcement in the Local Newspaper… and let the word spread naturally on its own (trust me it will)

This would the be CLASSIEST way to get the info out there… in so much as you don’t appear to be boasting !!

Update your Status from Single / Dating to ENGAGED on Social Media

Email or Call Friends & Family with your Good News

Send a personal note to Friends & Family telling them your news (could also include a Photo of the 2 of you)

OR at this time of year…

Send out Christmas Cards with your Photo on them (could be from an Engagement Shoot or just a photo of the 2 of you you already have & love)

As long as you aren’t throwing your own Engagement Party **… no one will see any of the above as a way to be asking for Gifts…

It would be just a case of sharing some great news.

Hope this helps,

** Traditionally, Engagement Parties SHOULD BE thrown by someone else (typically a family member / Parent) as a way to announce / celebrate your good news… and the 2 of you would be the Honoured Guests

(There are more “modern” ways around this… but they can be a tad trickier… if you think you’d like to do your Announcing this way… let me know)

 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldnt see a mailed engagement announcement as a solicitation for gifts. I’ve never received one so I thought they were no longer a “thing.” I think I would just think it was a bit much/weird.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@This Time Round:  is it still appropriate to do a newspaper announcement even if it’s been publicly announced via social media (ie status change) and there’s already been an engagement party? I hadn’t really considered putting an announcement in the paper, but my mom mentioned it and I think it’s something she’d like to do. We got engaged in July, had a party in September (hosted by our families), but our wedding isn’t until April 2015, so there would be plenty of time.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We called parents, siblings, grandparents and god parents. We have families that are kinda hard to contact so we did engagement mailers but sent them to those only guarenteed to be at the wedding (we had already done a guest list) we let the rest learn by word of mouth. We didnt do the social media route since some people dont have it or dont see it if they dont log in shortly after the posting. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @pineapplez17:  you asked:

Is it still appropriate to do a newspaper announcement even if it’s been publicly announced via social media (ie status change) and there’s already been an engagement party? I hadn’t really considered putting an announcement in the paper, but my mom mentioned it and I think it’s something she’d like to do. We got engaged in July, had a party in September (hosted by our families), but our wedding isn’t until April 2015, so there would be plenty of time.

YES it would still be fine to do… anywhere from a year out (April 2014) thru to a few months ahead of the Wedding.

In so much, as Engagements used to be a year or less in length, with a tendancy now to longer Engagements… Announcements can be published in the Newspaper either when the Engagement takes place, or as I say in the year or under timeframe.

Typically Engagement Announcements published in the Newspaper include a bit of info about the two of you, info on your Parents, and that the Wedding is upcoming (in some fashion)**.

And the wording can reflect “traditional” elements where either the Bride’s Parents are pleased to make the Announcement… BOTH Families, or the Couple can announce on their own.

** There is no need to be specific about the date… infact being vague is probably a better decision any how (no need to attract the attention of an possible burglars who will thus know when they’ll be out of the house).

Instead it is ok to say something along the lines of:

  • A Wedding for 2015 is planned
  • A Spring 2015 Wedding is planned

etc

NOW to be certain, Newspaper Engagement or Wedding Announcements (done after the fact) are not cheap !!

And more so if you include a photo.  But there is certainly some caché to having one’s Announcement in the paper… and it will be therefore preserved “for all time” (as Newspapers are achieved forever).  Fun therefore for yourself and Future Generations to look back on.

A Newspaper Announcement could cost several 100s of Dollars if one lives in a larger cosmopolitan area… BUT that could work out to be a lot cheaper than sending out printed STDs… and with today’s technology and Newspapers being on-line, you could certainly skip STDs all together and when anyone asks “Hey I heard you got engaged” you could definitely say YES we did… here’s the link if you wish to check out our Announcement

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RE – FACEBOOK

Other than changing one’s Status on FaceBook, I cannot say I am a fan of posting a bunch of Engagement Photos or making an Announcement on FaceBook.

Unlike a Newspaper Announcement, FaceBook altho PUBLIC tends to be perceived as “Private” communication with others…

AND HENCE WHY… you hear stories here on WBee about how sooo many Couples see themselves inundated with Inquiries about the Wedding, Invitations etc from “Acquaintances” shortly after getting Engaged… and how awkward it can become.

The rule of thumb with FaceBook… is LESS IS MORE

When you put your life out there on Social Media (vs regular media) … people see themselves as part of your “social” circle (which is a lot wider electronically than in person… all those “FB Friends” not being FRIENDS IN REAL LIFE necessarily) believe they have the right to comment on your life, as you’ve chosen to be an OPEN BOOK.

OVERSHARING Wedding Info on FaceBook is a recipe for disaster… DRAMA & TRAUMA, in my opinion.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@amyeb25:  if you send people an engagement announcement, they are likely to think a wedding invitation is coming. So I wouldn’t do it. If they aren’t so close to you that you’d invite them to your wedding, they probably won’t care that you got engaged. Just announce it on FB and let people spread the word.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@This Time Round:  thanks! I actually think it would be fun to put in the paper. And like you said, it retains a permanance (I’m actually in school for archives, so it’s right up my ally!). As far as Facebook goes, we changed our status a week after we got engaged, and that was it. I don’t intend on sharing wedding information on FB. I think it can cause problems with people who aren’t invited.

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