Post # 1
Bride’s Mother first and last name
joyfully invites you
to the wedding of her daughter
Bride’s first name
Groom’s first name “Nickname” Lastname
Sunday, June 8, 2014
at 11:30 in the morning
Street address, Town, State, Zip Code
Reception to follow
I wonder about using his nickname – there are THREE men in his family with the same first and last name, he is the only one using this nickname and always has. Also, my mother is Quaker so prefers no honorific with her name. We like to keep things simple and straightforward, so I hope to use the numeric date and year rather than the strict etiquette spelling it all out. It’s a BRUNCH reception and I don’t know if I should mention that. I’ll line the words up a bit better when I take the sample to the stationery store. Thank you for any suggestion, comments, etc!!! 🙂
Post # 4
– Can you include your last name on there?
My surname is different than my mother’s, but on top of that you are your own person, not just the daughter of your mother – you have your own (full) name!
[ETA] Putting your surname will also help to balance the invitation out visually and keep with the formatting – your FI gets his full name, I think it would look graphically balanced and read smoother (out loud, I mean) if you also put your surname.
– Definately mention the brunch reception, so people know what to expect for food (and please save me some waffles!)
Maybe insteadof “Reception to follow” you can write “Celebratory Brunch to Follow” which (to me) would rule out heavy drinking/dancing/formal dinner/etc. and also tell me how to dress and what kind of food to expect. Also it lets me know how long I can expect to be there for (i.e. not all night long)
Sigh, I love brunch receptions.
– I don’t know if I’d include the nickname. My FI has a nickname and it’s kind of awful to outsiders… he prefers me to call him by his first name (I actually asked him once haha).
So he’s First Surname Jr., but everyone knows him as Junior or Juni (no joke). I wouldn’t put First “Juni” Surname Jr. on the invite, because that’s not his name!
Anyone who asks which Edward it is (or whatever, you know) is either joking or REALLY not paying attention.
Alternatively, you can just put his nickname and skip the first name – Ed Surname. It’s a lot more casual but you can squeak by it since this is a brunch reception (and also you can do whatever you want)
I just think that having both first name and nickname is a bit cumbersome.
Post # 5
@CakeyP: Thank you so much for your advice!! And hello to a fellow Jersey Bee!!!
In the lastest version I have added my surname and I will indeed mention the Brunch reception. You have an excellent point about people knowing what to expect.
Sure, I’ll save you some waffles!! With syrup? 😉
My FI is still pondering the nickname thing. I have left that final choice up to him. 🙂
Thanks again for your thoughtful critique – much appreciated.
Post # 6
@Astra: Are you printing your own invites or getting them printed somwhere?
Either way, I think I’d try to print out a “mock up” at home with multiple verions – with fiance’s full name and with his nickname.
Guys can be so visual sometimes, if he hasn’t seen it yet he might not be able to imagine the difference in his mind. I’m designing our invites, and FI doesn’t understand a word I say about it until I show him in print hahaha
No thanks, I’m a weido who doesn’t put syrup on my waffles. Fresh strawberries? LOL
Post # 7
@CakeyP: I went to a stationery store yesterday and looked through about a dozen massive books of invitation samples and didn’t find a single one I liked. There is a design on Wedding Paper Divas that I like (FI likes it, too) so we may use them. I have ordered eight free samples from them so we can see how they look.
We both have very fancy printers at home so we do have the option of printing our own. I have printed a mock-up on plain paper so we can see how it looks.
We are having fresh fruit so I expect we’d have lots of strawberries. 🙂 No worries about the syrup. I put powdered sugar on my French Toast and have been thought strange. LOL
Post # 8
@Astra: I’m actually using Paper Source to get my stuff, don’t know where you are but there’s one in Summit. They have some example invitations in the back of the store – fun to look at!
But I’m just making ours (not using an example) and printing them on Paper Source paper.
Eventually I’ll post it up here for a critique hahaha
If you both found an online invite you like, I say go for it!
It’s a lot less stressful than making your own, I’ll tell ya haha
What the what? Powdered sugar BELONGS on french toast!!
Post # 9
@CakeyP: There is a Paper Source in Princeton, which is very close by. I’ll check them out!! Thank you!!
So, two orders of French Toast with powdered sugar it is!!! LOL!!!
Post # 10
I think having a nickname is okay. It adds some personality and makes it personal to your wedding! Especially for those who really know you guys. But like someone else said in this thread, maybe he needs to see the invite first and see how it actually looks on it. Some guys are visual My fiance is the same way. He was deciding on whether to use his full first name or his shorter name since he barely hears his full name LOL. After I did a mock of both invites with both names, he suprisingly preferred his full name because it looked formal which I didn’t know he wanted LOL.