- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
STDs will be entirely online, invitations will be paper, but with online RSVPs.
The wedding is in our hometown, so most guests will have to travel from out of town.
The hotel where we got a room block is very nice, not the cheapest in town, but not through-the-roof expensive (especially considering most of our friends will be coming from cities with much higher cost-of-living.) Guests will have to rent a car to get around, since the public transportation in our hometown isn’t very good. Most of FI’s New York friends are millionaires, but we’ve offered to pay for rental car and hotel costs for our guests who’re traveling from far away and don’t have much money.
Our wedding website has all travel information easily accessible, and no long, cheesy, “about us/how we met” section.
<address>The ceremony is in a very liberal protestant church. It will be long (40-45 minutes) because I am a classical musician by profession, and including a lot of good music by my friends is important to me. There will be no readings except for scripture, no communion, no unity candle/sand ceremony/other added ceremonies, so the length of the ceremony will be almost entirely because of the music. All music will be classical, but none of it will standard wedding music–no Canon in D, etc. It’s all handpicked music that’s been significant to us, our friends who’re performing it, or our friends who composed it.</address><address>We are Christian and the ceremony will be religious, but many of our guests are either not religious or not Christian, so we will do what we can to minimize the “Jesus-y-ness” of the ceremony while still keeping it meaningful to us. There will be some Jesus, but hopefully not enough to make the atheists in the audience uncomfortable. And the pastors at this very liberal church are very unlikely to say anything offensive about wives submitting or anything like that. </address><address> </address><address>My dress is plain plain plain, tulle strapless A-line with a sweetheart neckline, and I’m adding a gold ribbon brooch belt. Other than that, the dress has no embellishment at all, no lace, no bling, no texture to the skirt. The bridesmaids will be wearing black, but I’m not giving them any other “requirements.” Most will probably wear dresses they already have in their closets, so there will be no matching or coordinating factor except the color black. We’re DIYing bouquets, but having no other flowers. Bouquets will be a combination of purple, blue, and white flowers with some greenery, maybe tied with a gold ribbon to match my sash. The groomsmen probably won’t match either. I’m leaving their attire entirely up to FI and I can’t imagine he really cares what they wear. I don’t, either. We are planning no decorations for the already classy and beautiful church.</address><address> </address><address>There’s no gap between ceremony and reception. We’re not having a limo or other fancy car, we’re just going to carpool. The reception’s at a very fun, very interactive museum that’s kind of a landmark for our hometown. We picked it because it was important to FI. He wanted his out-of-town friends to be somewhere they could really have fun, and he wanted to show them something distinctive in our hometown. We both liked that there’s lots to do there for people who don’t like to dance, and we both wanted the venue to be very kid-friendly, since there will be tons of kids at the wedding. It meets all those requirements, and a huge section of the museum will be open and staffed for our guests. It is not, however, visually beautiful. It is bright and colorful and designed to appeal to kids. Fun and exciting, yes. Pretty, no. I also have no idea about the quality of the food, since they require us to use their in-house caterer anyway. We do get to choose the food that the caterer serves, and we’re making sure there are plenty of options for our vegetarian and vegan guests. We’re having an open bar, and the cakes (multiple single-layer cakes without fancy decorations, not a traditional tiered wedding cake) will be baked by relatives who’re master bakers. (I can vouch for the quality of the cake. It’s really good.)</address><address>We’re having a band who plays mostly covers from the 50s-90s, along with some more modern covers. We are planning no decorations for the reception space, except centerpieces,which will just be candy for the guests to eat. (We’ll probably jump on the mason jar bandwagon for displaying the candy in the center of the table.) We will provide cabs between the hotel and the reception, so anyone staying at the hotel who intends to drink can drop their car back off at the hotel after the ceremony and take a cab to the reception. They’re close enough that they could do this and still make it to the second half of cocktail hour. Ceremony at 5:30, cocktail hour is 15 minutes away at 6:30, dinner served at 7:30.</address><address> </address><address>No bouquet toss. No garter toss. Maybe some limited speeches. (Maximum of 3 min. to the MOH and 3 min. to the best man). No “grand entrance.” No head table or sweetheart table. (We’re just going to sit at a regular table.) No special dances. Reception ends at 11:00, but we might plan on some kind of informal after-party at a bar for the young but childless folk. </address><address> </address><address>A drop-in brunch will be available for our guests a couple blocks from the hotel the next morning.</address>