Critique my wedding–be brutal

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds fine? I’m confused my this post. What do you wantto critique? This seems like a very standard wedding. 

Post # 3
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I’m not going to read that wall of text, lol. If there are specific issues you are unsure about, maybe you could bullet those? 

Post # 6
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If I were a guest –

I don’t think I would enjoy sitting through a 40 minute ceremony with classical music. It would be boring. But I would get over it. Especially if the reception was a blast, chances of me remembering the ceremony are slim. 

I would wonder why the reception space doesn’t look like a wedding (due to no decorations, no centerpieces, no head table/sweetheart table)

No one will care if you have a limo or whatever. So no big deal on that. 

No gap in ceremony and reception is good in my opinion. 


Can I ask why you’re choosing to NOT do more than you ARE doing for the whole thing? Just curious. 

Post # 7
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

sunflower22:  I don’t think guests care at all what your bridal party wears. Your wedding sounds normal, ceremony is a little long but no biggie.

Post # 8
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I never liked the idea of online STDs ( or invitations)  because it could be too tempting for people to forward to others.  In fact, I don’t like STDs at all and didn’t send them.  Online RSVPs are fine, IMO. 

Why  all the emphasis on what you are NOT planning to do?  if it were me, I would put in some effort to make the reception venue have some personal touches. 

I think the ceremony sounds lovely, I might add some flowers that could be moved to the reception.  Bridesmaid dresses sound fine, I’d find a way for the groomsmen to wear suits in the same general color as each other. 

you might consider a circulating shuttle bus instead of cabs for your guests. 



Post # 9
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think you should worry that much. No matter what type of wedding you have, there will be people who dislike some part of it – you just have to do what you can to make your wedding 1) reflect you and your SO and 2) make as many of your guests happy and comfortable as possible.


If I were to pick on one thing from your bullet points, it would be the length of the ceremony. I hate long ceremonies – we’re going to a full Catholic mass wedding in a couple weeks and I am dreaddddding it – but I will still sit there with a smile on my face and try to enjoy myself.

Post # 13
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First of all most guests won’t know what they are walking into when they get to the ceremony. Unless you broadcast your program on your wedding website people will not know your long ceremony is primarily classical music.

Would that be my first choice? No. I like some classical music especially thr ewell known popular songs. The music you described sounds like its all going to be new though.  

As far as taking Jesus out of the ceremony for guests. I think that is rridiculous.  You only get married once. Your invited guests are witnessing your wedding ceremony they are not participating in it. If a religious ceremony is important to you put all the trimmings in it that make it meaningful.

I would not care about renting a car as an OOT guest. I would expect to do that.  The costs I incur attending your wedding would relate to how much I spend on your gift.

Non matching bridal party not a problem. No decorations to me means you were trying to keep to a budget, again not a problem. 

These things you are planning to do would not be offensive. I may not particularly care for them, but we would still be friends after the wedding.

Post # 14
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

sunflower22:  IA with PPs. I would hate the long ceremony, but I would get over it and I don’t think you have to change it, but out of curiosity why do you have to make your ceremony into a concert? Can the classical music just play in the background while the important stuff is happening rather than pausing everything JUST to hear music?

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