Cruise Ship Wedding… Rude or no?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Is it like you cruise around for a while and come back after the wedding or like an overnight type thing?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

No, I don’t think it’s rude. However, you need to be prepared that people may not come. If this is important to you to have everyone there, then have the wedding in your hometown.

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Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

It’s not rude, it’s a destination wedding. But, be prepared for people RSVPing no.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Its not rude, but many less may come. I personally wouldn’t attend a wedding on a cruise ship for anyone other than immediate family. I don’t like the idea of spending money on a vacation that doesn’t interest me, especially with 49 other people. On a boat. That being said, some people love cruises!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

exactly what everyone else is saying. it’s not rude but people might not want to make the long drive, get a hotel worry about child care etc. 

 

In the end it’s your wedding and if that’s what you love, that’s what you love.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Does the $6,000 pricetag include the four-day cruise for all of you guests?  Or is that the cost of the wedding/reception ONLY, and they would be required to pay for travel to your wedding, as well as the price of the cruise itself?

Post # 9
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Helper bee

jessjlstar:  I don’t think it’s rude at all. That’s not far for people to travel who really care about you. My sister and family reside in Ca, I live in Oklahoma. I flew out for her bachelorette weekend, and then again for her wedding with my 2yr old son in tow, and surprised her with flying in a videographer for her wedding.  I am in the camp that thinks people tend to put too much emphasis on what others ‘think’ when it’s our big day, and this is coming from someone who owns a business in the wedding industry :). 

My fiancé thought about getting married in Hawaii, and our closest friends and family said that was something they were willing to travel to, but we ultimately decided we didn’t want to honeymoon there so we chose tI have our wedding ceremony in the Maldives and honeymoon there (as it’s our dream honeymoon location).  We are both still having bachelor/bachelorette trips, and my friends are flying in to attend it.  We are super non traditional and decided on having a “send off celebration” before our departure for friends and family to attend.  

Each couple is unique and each wedding should be too. I think it’s lovely that you’re wanting to do a cruise wedding and it shouldn’t be too far for family/friends to travel as it’s a once in your lifetime event! 🙂 excited for you! 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica

I love cruises!! I would come… what are the ports?  If you have interesting stops… more people would come… or if most of your family is  closer to another port… cruise out of that port and then just the 4 of you will have to travel

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We had a cruise ship wedding (we picked a 3 day cruise over a weekend so more people could attend, as opposed to a longer cruise). As PP have said, as in any destination wedding, you have to accept going in that not everyone is going to want/be able to go for various reasons.

The majority of my extended family would have had to travel regardless of where we had the wedding, whether it be destination or hometown. We made sure our VIPs (close/immediate family) were able to go before we decided. And we did not have a wedding party of any sort so that no one would feel obligated that they HAD to go to our destination wedding. 

We had quite a few people go on the cruise after the wedding, too. It was a lot of fun! (we did a delayed ‘real’ honeymoon about 6 months later, just the two of us) 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

jessjlstar:  As long as this option is affordable and otherwise reasonable for your bridal party and your absolute nearest and dearest (and unfortunately if you do ask them to pay the extraordinary travel expense, I think you will have to be even quieter than is generally expected when it comes to hinting at a shower or bachelorette), and as long as you are prepared for other guests to say no (and to deal with your mother if she is not prepared for people to say no), and as long as you do not hold anyone’s ‘no’ against him/her, which it doesn’t sound like you’re going to do, then you should keep this option under consideration. 

I would not personally go because a)I hate cruises and b)I suffer from motion sickness that does not respond readily to most medical treatments, but I’d be happy to take any friends who got married on a cruise out to dinner or another celebration after their wedding/honeymoon.  🙂

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