Post # 1
Long time lurker, finally feeling the need to make a post of my own. I just found out that the photographer we’ve been planning on using for our wedding will be unavailable. We’ve been in contact with him for almost a month and were supposed to have our meeting this week. He just notified me that he needs to attend a friend’s wedding out of state on our wedding weekend so we can’t use him.
I’m trying to be a relaxed bride and have fun with planning but photography was the one thing I didn’t want to compromise on, it was going to be our splurge. I really don’t love anybody’s work as much as his and I’m trying not to cry, I’m so crushed. Technically we could still move our date, but I’d feel silly disrupting the whole wedding just for this one thing. I just needed to vent to people who won’t think I’m a crazy diva
Post # 3
@LVoeBride: That stinks! I would ask him if he has any referrals for a photographer he considers similar to his style. I always refer others when I get an inquiry I’m booked for.
Post # 4
@starfish0116: I did. He send me two referrals and both photographers have work that is good on a technical level and pretty looking. But it’s missing that special something that just takes my breath away. I probably wouldn’t be so disappointed if I hadn’t spent the last few weeks thinking it was a sure thing.
Post # 5
I changed my date because the venue I wanted wasn’t available. My original date didn’t have any special meaning though. Is it possible you can change the date?
Post # 6
I emailed 27 photographers who were all booked well over a year before my date! I was so pissed and it took forever to contact everyone. Even the referrals were booked. I just had to suck it up and go with the only one who wasn’t booked yet. I’d just find another before everyone gets booked/busy.
Post # 7
@LVoeBride: Aww that stinks, especially since you’ve been in contact with him! On the bright side…at least he told you know and not a few months before the wedding. Keep looking, you’ll find someone else. The first photographer we both really liked and tried to book…lets just say it fell through (or she just decided to stop returning phone calls) I was pretty bummed, but I LOOOOOOVE our photographers now. They have just as amazing work and even better they are so fun to work with! In the end it all worked out. Have you thought about checking out reviews on weddingwire/theknot/weddingchannel, ect? That might be one way at least to start looking at other options! Or check out bridal shows? We actually won a free engagement shoot with our photographers, it was so much fun and they were so easy to work with…we looked around but ended up coming back to them for the wedding!
Post # 8
My clients move their dates to suit my availability all the time. It’s not crazy at all. Esp a year out.
Post # 9
@LVoeBride: that’s so disappointing! If it means that much to you to have this photographer, so much do that you feel like something would be missing without, I would definitely consider moving the date. I don’t think it’s crazy if this is what’s important to you. IMO, I would rather change the date than look back in a few months or years and have regret.
Post # 10
We tooootally would have moved our date if our photog was already booked–she did my cousin’s wedding, and we knew we wanted her. Fortunately, our wedding is on a Monday, so that wasn’t too likely, lol.
Post # 11
The reason I’m hesitant to move our date is mainly out of concern that some guests won’t be able to make it. My family and closest friends are all going to have to travel from out of state to attend and so far that date happens to work well for everybody. My fiance & I are going to discuss the possibility of moving the date but I think maybe I need to wait a day or two and then re-look at other portfolios with fresh eyes. I know there are plenty of talented photogs in my area but I just keep comparing them to “mine” and feeling like they aren’t as good.
Post # 12
honestly, I get it – I went through the same thing with a videographer. But…I hunted a little more, found someone I loved just as much, and it’s just a distant memory. Plus, you can always get couples pictures taken later by that photographer!
Try looking for photographers out of town – you might be in luck!
Post # 13
We totally changed our date to accomodate our photographer. We were pretty flexible anyway, in terms of being happy to do any Saturday within a two-month radius. Photography is really important to us so we were happy to do it.
Post # 14
@LVoeBride: I understand how you feel. We didn’t set our date until we knew our photographer was available. Like you, the photographer was hugely important.
Is there another date which would be feasible for your friends and family?
Post # 15
@LVoeBride: A week or two after I got engaged I emailed the photographer I’d always hoped to hire. Our wedding was about 22 months from the time I called her… and she was already booked for that day. I was very upset. She referred me to a few photographers, none of whom I liked. I didn’t want to change the date because we’d already booked the venue and it wasn’t available the week earlier (seriously, so many things are booked 2 years in advance. It’s insanity) . I spent like a month researching photographers and emailing tons of them, and found one I loved way more than the original one I’d wanted. Unfortunately she was about $3700 which was more than we could afford. I kept searching and found a guy who I loved just as much, for about $1000 less, including many more things in the package. I ended up going with a totally different style than I’d originally anticipated. I was obsessed with the expensive photographer and convinced no one would be as good, until I found the one we hired. I hope that you have a similar situation 🙂