Post # 1
New to Weddingbees! I’ve been reading some of the waiting posts and they all bought tears to my eyes because of how famililar they all sound so I thought I’d share my story.
I’ve been with my SO for 6 years this August, we live together and have survived a multitude of life changing events, from GCSEs to degrees, from road accidents to successes. We’ve been through such a lot and always came out the other side strong and happy. So as you can imagine, when we went off for our holiday I was utterly convinced we was going to pop the question. Especially as the following few weeks he’d mentioned how a friend of his proposed to his SO on holiday without a ring because of the airports and then took her ring shopping when they got home, he even asked me what I thought of this so i assumed he was hinting. He’s also always been aware that my dream proposal is on a balcony or beach abroad. So I was utterly convinced, right up until I got into bed on the last night after what was a very romantic evening of live music and a moonlit walk on the beach looking up at the shooting stars but lacking any proposal.
I was disapointed when I got on the plane home but thought it best to shrug it off as we had had an amazing holiday regardless. But then I got home and was met with his brother’s annoucement: he’d made a romantic moonlit beach proposal to his girlfriend of just 9 months on holiday that same week. Whilst I’m very happy for them I can’t help but feel so heartbroken that it should have been me and my SO who came home with that exciting news. My dream proposal and it had come true for someone else instead! On top of that, 3 other couples we’re friends with have just got engaged, even though we’ve been in a relationship for longer than any of them.
My SO is now aware of how I feel as I’m so useless at lying when he asks ‘what’s wrong?’ but he just says ‘I can’t do it now, I’d steel my brother’s thunder’ true, but that’s why you should have done it on holiday at any of the given perfect opportunities! It should have been our thunder to steal 🙁
I can’t beleive how much this has gotton to me, it actually feels like heartbreak even though we’re still together. I thought maybe ranting into cyber space would help me clear my mind and stop me looking at wedding pictures on Facebook and Pinterest.
Post # 3
@LilacHearts: I know waiting sucks, but it sounds like your guy is aware of your feelings on getting engaged and is moving foward with plans! You just need to remember that some men are slower about things and they are all about timing. It’s ok if he wants to wait for your brothers news to die down before he starts making it all about the two of you.
Post # 4
@LilacHearts: i am so sorry, i feel your pain 🙁
but maybe his brother’s upcoming proposal is why he didn’t? knowing his brother was proposing to his girlfriend he would have decided against doing the same thing.
just know when the time comes it will be perfect and better than you ever imagined 🙂
Post # 5
Is it possible that his brother told your SO that he would propose and that made your SO not proposing to you? Maybe he’s ordering the ring and he doesn’t have it yet? Maybe he’s waiting for Christmas to propose to you? My husband wanted to propose to me on Christmas day but he didn’t have enough time to get a ring so it didn’t happen on that day. Finally he proposed to me on a Valentine’s Day. I’d say just be patient. In a month or two, he won’t be stealing your brother’s thunder anymore.
Post # 6
@Nat_can: I did wonder if he had any idea about his brother’s proposal (assuming it was even planned) but I’m pretty sure he didn’t. I’m considering asking him later if he knew or not. I remember his brother saying when we got back that he ‘had news for us both’ so i’m pretty certain this wasn’t the case and it’s just me wishful thinking.
Post # 7
Ugh, the waiting game sucks. But just know that when it happens, it’ll be amazing. And you can come to us bees and we will listen to all your vents/rants/whatevers as you patiently wait for the right time. In the meantime, you can start planning in your head the details about the wedding that you’d like so that when he finally does pop the question, you’ll be all set! 🙂
Post # 8
@LilacHearts: I agree with the others, but waiting bites, just relax and enjoy your relationship. when he evntually gets youn the amazing bling, you’ll be over the moon i’m sure!!
Post # 9
@LilacHearts: sounds like a weak excuse. Yo should really get under why he isn’t proposing.
Post # 10
I can see why you are disappointed!! I would have been too!!! Try to be patient and we are here for you!!!
Post # 11
I went on a camping trip a few weeks ago (as some may know if youve read my posts) and did not get a proposal. I had CONVINCED myself that I was going to.. and I was absolutely CRUSHED. I can totally understand that you feel like you had a breakup.. I did too. I was hurting so much .
BUT it changed me a little after a few days.. I did not want to feel that again so I set some goals and kept busy bettering myself (gym, hot yoga, new outfit, d omy nails, organize photos) and things have been going GREAT.. i do still have horrible waiting days but I honestly feel like having that crushing experience has ultimately made things easier.
I hope that my experience helps and that you can turn your experience into a good thing too 🙂