(Closed) Crying at my desk

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m sorry that you are going through this:(  I know exactly what you mean.  My mom is 1 of 10 kids and each one of those kids had at least 2 of their own if not more, so we have a pretty big extended family!  And I’m not close with many of my cousins either.  I don’t understand why families can’t just suck it up for one day and get along!!!  I hope it all works out for you and unfortunately you can’t concern yourself with how others are going to act, believe me on your wedding day that will be the last thing you will have to deal with if at all!!  Only half of my family showed up and the other half couldn’t be bothered to drive 45 minutes, but I still got married and didn’t even notice that they weren’t there!!  Things will work out!! 

Post # 4
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry! Really don’t let it ruin YOUR day! Some people are born into WONDERFUL families who will do anything for them…and some of us have to pick our own “families.” Maybe your girlfriends are more like family and should be the ones you focus on sharing your special day with!

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In the end, the day is about you and your FI… whoever does or doesn’t show up won’t matter as long as you two get married and enjoy the day.

If people can’t put aside their own issues to be happy for you on your wedding day, then you don’t need them.  I totally understand wanting to have a meaningful bond with your family, because you can’t choose them.. they are family and that SHOULD mean something.  But, really, it’s the people that you can trust and count on who support and love you that matter most.  I’d take my best friend and her parents (who support and love me no matter what) over my drama filled and self absorbed cousins/aunt/uncle ANY day.

Post # 6
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry, and I can kind of relate. FI doesn’t talk to his Dad, Future brothe rin law doesn’t talk to parents, etc..

But, I decide that it was their problems, not mine. That I would have the wedding the way I wanted and if people don’t want to come…well, like I said, it’s their problem.

You can’t control others and their crappy behaviors. If they can’t get along long enough for your special day, well..they aren’t thinking of anyone but themselves, so who wants that?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m so sorry to hear about your uncle and all the family drama.

Honestly, towards the end of the planning stages, my motto became “Whoever is excited about coming to the wedding is welcome with open arms”. I don’t care if that person is some random plus one I’ve never met or distant friends we don’t keep in touch with, if they were excited they were welcome. Unfortunatley those people usually don’t include family members for whatever reason..

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