Post # 1
Soooo…. I had my first freak-out in the parking lot of hobby lobby today all over 15 dollars. I decided to splurge a little bit on some glass containers that were a bit more ornamental and fun than the cheaper ones I found at Marshalls. Plus, the FI really liked them so I thought it was would be something nice he could be involved in and a fun wedding trip because he works all day and we hardly ever get to see each other. So I purchased the containers and as I walked out my FI asked if he could carry the bags for me and so I let him, and just a few moments later SMASHHHHHHH… FI held the bag too low and it hit a concrete median in the parking lot. I immediately froze to contain my panic while he opened the bag to find that the bottom of the container was broken.
And I freaked out!
I was just so upset that the one thing I wanted to him to help me with went array and our nice outing out became a negative one ( in my eyes at that moment) and that we wasted money. He of course went straight in and bought a new one with him own money, but I was still pissed. It just made all of the details and planning and ideas that I have been having swimming in my head over the past few weeks come crashing to the ground and made me realize that in a second a mistake can happen and something can be just ruined! Mostly, it just made me feel like I had no control over how our day is going to be and made me very nervous that something else might go wrong with the other containers. Now I am mostly upset about the wasted money and upset with myself for being so upset over something so stupid and for making my FI feel so crappy. I wish we had more money so I didn’t have to worry about a measly 15 dollars, but we don’t. I have been tracking every expense and it is very stressful.
So, this was my first freak-out (outside my head anyway) and I know it won’t be the last. Whenever I am not doing something for the wedding I feel like I am wasting time and that I will forget something. Now to make it better I am trying to think of ways we can use the container in other parts of the wedding and how we can hide the break. We can glue it together but the cracks will be visible unless I paint it or cover it with something. I was thinking of using it to hold the jasmine for the tossing at the ceremony, to hold my bouquet at the reception or maybe to hold the bags for the candy buffet. In any case, trying to stay positive and not cry over broken glass in the future, unless I step on it. 🙂
How about you? Have you freaked out yet? Was it something small that set you off?
Post # 3
Ahhh I totally feel you! Its the little things that can set you off..you just have to keep your emotions in check. Mine happened in June..I had the food tasting planned for one evening at 5, but FI and I had to take seperate trains to get there from work…FI had a straight shot there and I had to transfer.
.Long story short, FI made it to the town and a HUGE storm hit when I was in the middle of transfering trains. The new train was no longer running and I was going to miss the tasting!! I realized that I was going to miss the tasting and I called the coordinator to see what to do. I could have canceled but FI wasn’t going to take another day off work and either was I. I told FI to just go without me since he was already there and he took the earlier train. I started BAWLING in the middle of the train station. I’m talking hysterical sobs and one Police officer had to come over and asked if I was ok. In between sobs I told him I was sorry I was overreacting but I was going to miss my tasting. He looked at me like I was nuts!
FI felt so bad that he said that he wasn’t going to go and I can take one of my friends the next time. I wound up settling down and hiccuping and telling him to just go because it made sense.
The nice part is when he got home he had brought me a ” doggie” bag with all the menu choices, a bottle of wine and flowers. 🙂 I’m so lucky!!!
Post # 4
Are you kidding? I was pissed about everything and then the morning of you just kinda go ‘oh well’.
Post # 5
@andye_land: So sweet that he brought you the food home!!!!!! 🙂
@WillyNilly : That is what I figure. I am just sooo impatient, I wish sometimes it could just be here already and everything is done!
Post # 6
I totally agree! once it’s done they will learn 😀
Post # 7
@Firinne: poor you and poor FI, but those things happen, even when not wedding planning, if its not breaking something it could be losing something. Of course when wedding planning things get waaay more stressful, but he made it right and you guys are ok so dont let it worry you. It could have been way more expensive. I saw a poor guy drop a whole vase with flowers in it a few weeks ago when crossing the road with his (wife?) and felt so sorry for him/them. They had just walked out of an expensive gallery and I could just see how upset they both were. But it is just a thing, not someones health. Is it worth reusing it if people could see the cracks?
Post # 8
@traveller: You are right, and that is what I need to remind myself of. I think it was more of a symbol that there is just so much going on and at any moment it could all fall apart. :/
Well, it is only crack on the pedestal part that holds it up and so there is a chance I could cover it up somehow. Our theme is rustic fall and our centerpieces are fall leaf wreaths with lanterns in the middle, so I was thinking I could just place a fall leaf wreath at the bottom to cover it and then use it in some other way. Not sure though. And don’t really want to put too much enegry into it when so much else is going on.
Post # 9
@Firinne: oh ok I was imagining a clear glass vase where people would see cracks. If you can cover it then use it and I guess you ended up with 2 :-). Dont put too much energy into it though as you suggest, not worth worrying over. Im sure it will look amazing. We had to change our date & print out a second lot of STDs, and pay for flight changes etc but at the end of the day who cares, if money isnt spent on this its spent on other things anyway. Good luck with rest of planning 🙂