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Maybe you could cuddle him? You be the big spoon and he can be the little spoon =)
Next time you two cuddle, could you make a comment like "oh, your arm is totally smothering my neck, could you put it here?" and then move it to your waist or hip or something? (Or, obviously whatever body part you're feeling smothered by?) Or even just a, oh, I am so warm, could you move this here?
That's kind of what I'd do I think.
@HappilyEverAfter54: I have tried this and then he complains he isnt comfy... BOYS...
@.twist.: I will try that tonight and see if we can figure something out...
=( sometimes I just grab my FI's arms and put them where I want them and hold on... lol I usually wrap myself up in his arms like a blanket then say thanks for the cuddles tehe
@MsPanda: we haven't had an argument about it, but I have hurt FIs feeling. He is a big man and always burning up hot. It is hard to enjoy cuddling when you're basically being squished by a big hot gorilla haha. I love the man dearly but he doesn't realize his size! He loves to cuddle and I shy away from it sometimes so I have made an effort lately to snuggle up behind him in bed and be the "big spoon". He really enjoys this and it seems like a good compromise. I lay my head on his shoulder during movies too and he loves that.
I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him that he's being uncomfortable and maybe indicate how he can hold you so you don't feel smothered.
Or I second putting his hands where you want him to hold them.
When my FI is actually home for the night, (he works night shift as a dump truck when it's not raining)I always try to get some cuddles before he passes out. I call it canoodling hihi. So I usually canoodle with him for like 5-10 minutes then kiss goodnight and then I turn over to my side and he turns over to his side.
When he canoodles me and his arms hurt me, (he has some very heavy arms and I'm very tiny), I usually move them where it doesn't hurt me, he has never complained.
I usually move DH over if he over cuddles or puts too much pressure on my stomach. A gentle nudge usually gets the message across- or if I'm awake enough, actually tell him what's wrong.
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Thank you I will try being the "Big spoon" again lol
@SleepingWithNuns: Thanks I will try that
@couawilou: Limited time cuddling.... Hmmm maybe this will work too!
@Knubbsy-Wubbsy: I always try to tell him then I just get so frustrated when he doesnt understand lol... I dont have much patience when Im tired lol...
@MsPanda: When I'm really tired the elbows come out (I have pointy elbows :D ) or I make unintelligible grumbly noises until he moves, I figure if the same noises work in teaching the ponies that they are doing something wrong they'll work on a husband. I've also had complete conversations with him while he was asleep so I completely understanding the not understanding thing- so frustrating!
@Knubbsy-Wubbsy: I have been known to do the elbows and the other night I got so mad because he hit my cracked rib one of us slept on the couch and it wasnt me lol...
@SandyDollHair: Hmmm I dont know why I never thought of that one...
FI and I are all about cuddling when we're on the couch, even for a little while before going to sleep in the bed. But when it's time to go to sleep....it's time to go to sleep. We both head to our repsective sleep spaces. Mostly because of me.
I think he could cuddle all night, but I (like you) feel like I can't move or get comfy when I have him wrapped around me and I'm trying to snooze.
I just flat out told him. I love to cuddle with you, but I also love my sleep when it's time. And no one much loves me when I haven't gotten any :)
Mmm I love to cuddle! Touching is one of my biggest forms of showing someone I love them. I like to be the little spoon, cause my SO's body feels so flat and firm, and his muscular arms around me I just feel so protected! We usually lay like this when we're watching T.V. on the couch, or when we're laying in bed naked together.
I also like face-to-face cuddling, especially when we're laying down after sex or when we're discussing something intimate, and I'll run my fingers through his hair, or if we're not talking at that moment I'll burrow into his chest while he holds my hips. It makes me feel secure.
Mr. Beary likes laying on his back most often, though, so I'll lay on his chest and he'll hold me. But as I mentioned above, he gets hot very quickly and we'll both eventually roll over to our respective sleeping areas.
Edit: Although, I agree with you ladies. Sometimes Mr. Beary's arms get a little heavy in some places on my body (mostly my hips) and I have to gently move it to a spot that isn't so tender. He's even tried to put his chin on my breasts while we watch T.V. OW! NO! Lol. :P
If I ever feel over cuddled or smothered I just wiggle around "trying to get comfortable" until he either readjusts or lets go :)
My fiancee isn't really a cuddler either, I feel ya. After we have sex, he holds me for a long time and sometimes even says "See, I cuddled!". lol. Like it's a chore or something. He says it feels awkward because his arm falls asleep. I actually find that to be true....when I cuddle with him I only do it for a little while because my arm feels trapped!
My FI is a cuddler but sometimes I feel smothered, I do really enjoy his snuggles but like PP, it can get hot, uncomfy, etc. We are long-distance though, and I just got home from a visit so I am dying for some cuddling right now. :(
Totally misread your post. lol. He OVERcuddles?! I like Cyndistar's idea. I actually do that when I want FI to move away from me (I get wayyy too hot when he's close for too long). It always works.
position him how you want or you be the big spoon :) thats what we do.
Geez, what I wouldn't give for cuddles right now. Make the most of it! :)
But yes, when sleepy time - give me some air ;) Well, until it gets cold and then I need some more cuddles.
Oh yes, I can relate. My FI is so much bigger than me... and has strong arms. He's learned pretty well to make sure his arms rest on my ribcage so he doesn't crush the softer areas like my tummy. He's also really hot- I call him a supernova.
I'm fine with cuddling when I'm awake, but I need my space when I go to sleep. It's something FI wishes were otherwise... but.. *shrugs*
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So I used to LOVE to cuddle and Fi loves to cuddle sounds great right? NO Fi over cuddles I feel like I am being smothered everytime we try to cuddle. I dont know what to do. I miss being able to cuddle BUT I cant cuddle with him... I dont know what to do. Who would think we would fight about cuddling has anyone else ever had this problem?