Post # 1
I moved from Philadelphia to Germany and I have a 6 X 8mm, 1.05 carat oval aquamarine on a 4.25 finger. I’ve noticed that I get some looks when on the tram and I finally asked one of my German friends why this was happening.
She told me that most engagement rings in Germany are much much smaller than in the US, because the ring is rarely worn after marriage, so a ring like mine is going to get some stares. I’ve found that men and women also wear their wedding bands on their right hands instead of their left!
What differences from the US/Canada (since I know that’s a vast majority of Weddingbee) have you noticed, living or traveling abroad or within different cultures?
Post # 3
My male friend in Sweden got to have an engagement ring too (though it’s not blingy). That’s pretty special I think.
Post # 4
That is weird they wear them on the right hand!! People need to quit hating!
Post # 5
In Russia they wear them on their right hand as well!
Post # 6
@MissS2MrsD: I don’t think it’s hating, it’s just a different tradition in a different country. Most Germans wear very simple jewelry, and their wedding bands are usually plain gold bands. I’ve seen flashier stuff on the young German-Turkish girls though.
Post # 7
I’m from Brazil originally. And when I grew up, there was never an engagement ring per se. When a couple got engaged they would BOTH wear their wedding bands but on their RIGHT hand during the engagement period. I thought that was cute as I’ve always felt that it sort of sucks men don’t have anything during the engagement period (not to mention it being quite cost effective).
I then moved to Florida and got used to the sparkles.
I then moved to New Jersey and worked in NYC and got used to HUGE sparkles! And sadly, got too used to them and unfortunately got spoiled to loving rings around the 1-2 ct mark.
I know live in the UK where 1ct is viewed as quite big. And that’s what I have. It’s funny bc here a lot of people may think that’s huge.
But when I go to NYC to visit my friends, I’m always the one with the smallest ring :/
I sort of fit in Florida though hehehehe
so even in the US there are huge differences..
Post # 8
I’m from Russia and people wear their wedding bands on their right hand as well. When I was living there there were no engagement rings at all because there was no engagement in the American sense. The man didn’t ask the woman to get married. Instead the couple decided together to get married. I’m not sure how it is now though, (haven’t lived there in 20 years).
Oddly enough I often times wear my wedding rings on my right hand even though I live in America. No idea why but I prefer them on my right and my engagement ring on my left.
Post # 9
British engagement rings tend to be much smaller than US engagement rings. There’s also less of a taboo about gemstone rings. The Princess Diana/Duchess Kate ring was a very common style in lots of differen varieties.
It’s pretty much unheard of to ask for an upgrade too. Large diamonds (and heavy jewellery in general) are considered gaudy on younger women (under 40) other than for formal occasions.
Post # 10
I don’t think there’s any one right way to do it. You just have to go what feels comfortable. If you want a big ring on your left hand, even though you’re in Germany, go for it. It’s your ring and your hand. You can explain to anyone who asks that it’s your tradition and it may start a good conversation.
Post # 11
@LauraJay: Haha, I have a 9 X 4mm marquise aqua on my other hand!
Post # 12
In Germany people wear their wedding band on a right hand because it symbolizes a contract between two people and right hand is so-called contract hand. (like when you shake hands as an agreement). The second reason is that they want to show their marritial status when meeting someone new and shake hands.
Post # 13
Wow! All this is really interesting! I will have to keep this all in mind if we ever travel to a different country!
Post # 14
I have a friend whose culture says she wears the engagement ring on the right hand. People ask her about it all the time!
Post # 15
“When a couple got engaged they would BOTH wear their wedding bands but on their RIGHT hand during the engagement period. “
I have a question about this…
Do people have the same sized ring finger on the left and right hands? Becasue my ring only fits my left ring finger so I could not wear it on my other hand if a tried.
Post # 16
There is a saying in Chinese about “woman right, man left”. I’m not sure of the actual saying, but it generally means that women wear their wedding rings on the right hand, and their husbands on the left hand.