Post # 1
After reading several different posts, both by bees and by other members, it made me start wondering about other cultural or religion traditions that are incorpoated into your wedding, either the day of, or sometime before the actual ceremony. Is there a traditional ceremony that occurs before your wedding? Is there a cultural element that you’re incorporating? Maybe a religious element?
I’ve begun to realize how little I really know about other cultures and religions than my own when it comes to weddings, and I’m completely intrigued!
Post # 3
All our families use the stephanoti’s flowers in our arrangements and other sorts because the stephanotis is known as an italian flower (we are both italian). Thats the only tradiation/cultural thing I can think of right now that we are using! 😀
Post # 4
I didn’t know that the groom’s cake was a fairly southern tradition until a friend from NJ was like, "A what cake? Is that in addition to the wedding cake?"
We’re doing that, and the traditional cake pulls.
Post # 5
We are currently researching our respective traditions, but in the end I think that American weddings have so many fun traditions already, that we don’t feel compelled to add too much more.
We will probably do something very traditionally Italian, but I’m not sure what yet!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
We are jumping the broom!
Post # 8
I would have thought more people would include other traditions! I’ve been keeping my eye on this post!
Post # 9
I would have thought the same! With the insane amount of cultural and religious traditions, not to mention family traditions and other things, I really was hoping to have a lot more feedback! I think the post that spawned this was a post on the boards by someone who is Jewish and named several things in her post that I was completely unfamiliar with. Then later that same day, I read Mrs. Avocado’s post about a temple sealing. And the list grew, which is where this thread came from. But really? No one?
Post # 11
I’m having a wedding Lasso (dual rosary), there are other hispanic traditions but I chose not to include them.
Post # 12
This is def. a thread I was eyeballing as well…. HUH!
I have a few: I was baptisted Roman Catholic and FI is Mormon. Needless to say, we are getting married outside of both of our religions and his family for the most part have not been involved in planning a wedding outside of the Mormon faith.
I requested we do a Unity Candle, and they had never seen it before but for me I thought the sealing with the candle was important and the mothers lighting as well.
Another quirky little thing is a Jack and Jill.. his family and friend have NEVEr attended one, whereas for my family and friends we always have a joint J&J bc my family is so big we have the J&J so everyone can celebrate the engagement / marriage and then have a smaller wedding.
Post # 13
Well, being Taiwanese, I asked my parents whether or not they wanted to have the tea ceremony before our wedding, but my parents mentioned that "back in the day," it was the engagement that held the most traditions – announcing the engagement, the party, the giving of wedding cakes/cookies to each family member, the meeting of the two families, etc. My parents said they really didn’t care about the tea ceremony. The only thing we’re really doing is the family style multicourse dinner as our rehearsal dinner.
On the other hand, my parents are big on the Catholic ceremony traditions, so we will be having a full mass with unity candle. We’re primarily doing the Western reception and traditions(speeches, first dance, parent-child dances, etc).
Post # 14
There are many many cultural traditions in Hindu weddings and it completely depends on where you’re from in India and in some cases which caste your family is from. Of the many cultural traditions, here’s a few fun ones from my family: The bride and groom circle a fire 7 times and each circle represents an aspect of the marriage, after the 7th circle whoever sits first is said to be the head of the house, before the groom enters the alter the bridesmaids try to steal his shoes and ransom them, and before the bride and groom come home the groom’s sister(s) refuses their entry until the groom sufficiently bribes her.
Post # 15
I discussed this a bit in another thread:
Are you having a traditional wedding or a fusion event?
but this one seems to be getting more responses:)
My FI is not Indian, and I’m not exactly a practicing Hindu, but my family very much is. In our family, weddings are a very big, multi-day affair…though the earlier days are primarily family-oriented. My cousin had the full she-bang plus a couple of cocktail events, which was both fun and exhausting.
Prior to the main wedding festivities, I’m having some toned down events with my family. One is called the "tel – baan" which I think was traditionally to beautify and bless the bride. Basically older family members (men and women in our family) end up covering the bride in a mixture of oils, turmeric, and curds (followed by a shower for the bride and then lunch). There is also a traditional greeting of the MOB’s family where they bring gifts, b/c historically they’d be coming from a different village. We’ll do this before a sort of prayer ceremony at which me and my FI and his family will be present (but this is not a marriage ceremony). We will also have a henna party to which many close family friends and any OOT guests who have arrived will be invited to get henna decorations on their hands…and I’m supposed to sit for hours getting a very elaborate design that has my FI’s name hidden in it (though I’m going to opt for a sparser design myself). Traditionally this is done separately on each side, but we’ll invite my FI’s family. The night before the wedding we will have a Sangeet which also traditionally separate but even in India increasingly joint. This is a night when people usually close family and friends and the bride give dance performances to celebrate the upcoming marriage. We’re westernizing it by having a broader range of performances, including my FMIL playing the piano. Prior to this event we’ll do a couple of the Indian traditions including my FH riding in on a horse with his side and a garland exchange. First between his father and mine. Then between me and fizicsGuy. finally, the wedding itself will be more traditionally western, but we’re talking to the officiant about ways to personalize it. Honestly, I studied Shakespeare for my ugrad, so the most important thing to me is to include a reading of Sonnet 116 which to me says everything there is to say about marriage (a different cultural tradiation if you will):
Whew! That’s a lot when I write it all down. But I can’t wait to spend the time with all my family at once. Even living across the globe we’re all pretty close, and now days it’s pretty much at weddings taht we all get to be together.
Post # 16
I am Byzantine Catholic, and a main, core part of the marriage ceremony is the crowning ceremony. We literally get to wear crowns! It’s pretty cool. It symbolizes several thing such as becoming ‘king and queen’ of your new family, finding fulfillment in the kingdom of God, etc.
We are also not allowed instrumental music in the church. So while all of you get to choose beautiful ceremony music, I will be walking down the aisle to the cantor singing a regular church hymn, sigh.