Post # 1
So last night I was the “& guest” at a wedding of a really adorable couple I had never met before. The reception was very unique and beautiful. They had a beautiful display of cupcakes with a cute little cake on top that was clearly for the “cutting the cake” picture. The cupcakes smelled delicious… I swore I could even smell them from my table several yards away.
After dinner the dancing started and went on for quite some time. The staff put out coffee for us to self-serve. I guess that made people think it was dessert time and several people started going up to the cupcake tower and helping themselves.
Am I crazy or do you wait until the CAKE IS CUT before doing that? Isn’t that a given? The bride was on the dancefloor doing her money dance but was apparently REALLY upset about it. When my date’s sister said the bride was upset about it I went & stood by the tower and made people wait until they cut the cake. Me. The girl who didn’t even know the couple!
Has anyone else seen this? If I choose to have a cupcake or mini-dessert display am I going to have to wait until just before the cake-cutting to have it set up or make someone guard it?
Post # 3
This kind of sounds like a caterer/dj problem. I’d be upset too.. but I can see how people wouldn’t know. usually coffee and dessert go together, and with cupcakes it isn’t like you have to cut them and lay them out first. A lot of people don’t even do cake cutting. I think the caterer should not have put out the coffee until people were allowed to have the cupcakes. Also, the dj should have told people when the cake cutting would be!
Post # 4
While I can understand that it may have been a problem with the vendors and how the coffee made people think it was dessert time, I definitely think that it should be obvious to most guests that you should not eat the cake until it’s been cut. I can see how this would be tricky with cupcakes, though, since it doesn’t need to be cut into slices for the guests – and once one person takes one, others will think it’s fine and follow. I would probably have a hard time resisting since they smelled so good, but I know better than to take before the cake cutting. I do admit, however, that I have been known to drink the toasting champagne before the toast – it was right in front of me and the toast kinda slipped my mind – whoops!
I guess it’s an interesting thing to note that cupcakes make it harder to have control over the eating time, and people who really want the guests to wait should either not have cupcakes or have someone “guarding” them.
I’m sorry the bride was so upset – I might be bothered, but hopefully at that point I could say cest la vie! What’s done is done, the guests are happy, let’s just party!
Post # 5
hmm something was off with the planning there… but usually coffee isn’t served until dessert is ready to go. I wonder if one person asked for coffee so the servers started pouring and then people just figured, hey, the cupcakes are there.
sucks that the bride was upset but worse things could have happened for sure