Post # 1
This is sort of a spin off post of the ‘witch with a b’ thread, but can apply to other ring situations as well.
If you received a ring that you hated or just didn’t want to wear (for whatever reason), would you want your fiance to purchase a new ring, even if the original one couldn’t be returned? I don’t know how jewelry purchases work, or if they can be returned to the place of purchase, so please forgive my ignorance 🙂
Post # 3
I’m pretty sure I would love whatever came from my FI. This wasn’t an issue though for us, since we looked together. The lady behind the counter laughed though as I ooed and awwed over everything. She told him… “I think your lady will be happy with whatever you get her”. She was right. He ended up getting the one that I showed the most enthousiasm for, but I would have been happy with a twist tie on my finger.
Post # 4
If you really don’t like it, you can always go back to the jeweler and trade it in for a different one. When you trade it in, you get the full value of it and just pay the difference of the new ring.
Post # 5
I would keep it. It’s just how I am. I would feel awful teling him I wanted a different one
Post # 6
I think a smart girl schools her guy on the ring she likes before this every comes up. One day, walking through the mall, I dragged my guy to a jewelry store and just pointed to some rings I liked and I jokingly said “Repeat after me, white gold, round solitaire, white gold, round solitaire.” When he went shopping, I got a white gold, round solitaire, exactly like I asked. That being said, even IF he had picked out a whole other ring, I would have worn it gladly, and loved it just as much, because it came from him.
Post # 7
When my boyfriend and I talked about getting engaged, right off the bat he said “I don’t know anything about jewelry: what is quality, or beautiful, or durable. You show me things you like, and I will buy them for you.”
He plays guitar, and I equated it to me buying him a dream guitar. It would cost tons of money, I don’t know what’s good, and I don’t know what his personal preferences in terms of wood, finish, tone, etc. so it would be silly of me to be like “here is the be-all and end-all of your guitar collection. Hope you like it!”
Post # 8
Honestly, I think it depends on your relationship with your SO. I can’t imagine even getting a ring from someone I wanted to marry that I would hate. I would think he would know my tastes by then. However, if this happened, it would all depend on a lot of things- was he just clueless about style, is he not into jewelry- do we have an open relationship where we could discuss it? Does he expect that I might not like it, (so is he expecting to have me redesign it, is he okay with that- if not- why did he get a nonrefundable ring that he isn’t positive is my style)? If he just didn’t know, and he would be hurt if I said something, then I might keep it.
Post # 9
My ring can be returned at any point and exchanged (even 20 years later). So if my FI bought me something that I truly didn’t like.. then we would probably exchange it and compromise. Say he gave me a gold ring instead of white gold…. I wouldn’t wear it, I have hated gold for as long as I can remember! But if we couldn’t afford to exchange it for what I wanted, I guess I would just wear it. His parents gave me earrings and a necklace that I really didn’t want to wear (mostly because I don’t like pearls and don’t wear necklaces). But the jewelry “grew” on me and I started wearing them everyday to work… probably because it was the only “fancy” jewelry I had at the time.
All this to say… I have no clue what I would really do. It all just depends on the situation. But I think my FI would want me to be happy, so we would try to figure something out!
Post # 10
I would keep it because to me it is the thought that counts. If others don’t like them, and your SO is okay with trading them out, that’s fine by me, too.
Post # 11
I would wear what he gave me. It took him a long time, a lot of thought and energy and care to pick out THIS ring. I would wear it with pride!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
If I really hated it for some reason (which is hard to imagine, because I like most rings at least somewhat), I’d keep the diamond and change the setting. I can’t imagine he’d be too hurt by that. Maybe if it were a center stone shape I really, really hated that would be tougher to do. But that is yet another reason why we agreed that he wouldn’t be surprising me. 🙂
Post # 13
I would wear the one he gave me. In saying that no one said I could not save the money and buy myself a sparkling gift thats more suited to my taste! My FI has great taste and I adore my ering but even if I didnt like the style I would adore it beause of it’s meaning and sentimental value.
Post # 14
Is there an option for other? I think it would not be possible for a man to buy a woman he was going to propose to something she hated… I hope. If he really knew me, he’d know my taste in jewlery or I probably dropped some hints as to what I liked so even if we didnt shop together at all, he’d pick something in the ballpark that I would like/love.
Post # 15
FH would hate for me to wear something I didn’t love, so he wouldn’t be offended at all if I told him I didn’t like the ring he proposed with….. which is why he proposed without a ring and then had me custom make one I wanted.
If he had proposed with a ring I hated, I would tell him that it wasn’t what I had envisioned my ring to look like and we would return it.
Post # 16
This is why the BF has already said I get to pick out whatever I want AFTER he proposes. He wants me to have something I love.
He’ll be the kind of guy that uses a ring pop or something else ridiculous like that. 😀 And it will be so us.