Curious about Thank You Cards!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Cathedral ceremony, reception in a converted hardware warehouse

@LavenderBride24:  We sent out a photo card, and we sent them out about six weeks after the wedding, I think? I liked the photo card becuase then the people who couldn’t make it, but still send gifts, got to see a little bit of our day 🙂 

Post # 5
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i appreciate handwritten cards (doesn’t have to say much!) and a photo 🙂

Post # 7
1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I sent out a card (folded) with the front being a picture from our wedding.  Hand-wrote a nice paragraph to each person and sent out 6-8 weeks post wedding.

As the receiver, I just appreciate any card and written note that thanks me for joining them on the their special day and for the gift.  However, I do love seeing photo cards, although not a must.  🙂

Post # 8
1928 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t care what the front is (photo or monogram or generic ‘thank you’) But I do appreciate a hand-written note thanking me for the gift. Doesn’t have to be long, 2 sentences is plenty!

Post # 9
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LavenderBride24:  I am going to do mine immeadiately after the wedding.  But I have a really small guest list, 10 people for a private DW.  I will have all of them written and because we are all going to be in the same loacation, I will put them under their door before we depart for our honeymoon the following morning.  Myself personally, I will be using cards to match our invitations, I will hand write each of them.  I don’t know exactly what the proper ettiquette is on thank you cards.  I know that I prefer hand-written, pictures on the cards don’t really matter to me one way or the other.  That being said, I have gone to weddings, and sent gifts and never recieved a thank you card.  If I had to guess, I would say no more than 6 months after the wedding…….

Post # 10
2695 posts
Sugar bee

I am a bit of an overachiever when it comes to Thank You notes. Everyone who got us a gift got a hand written thank you note immediately after I received the gift. The thank you note matched my invitations. Anyone who came to my wedding got a “Thank you for sharing our day with us” picture thank you card with four pictures on it. So, if you gave us a gift and came to our wedding, you got two cards. People actually liked this.

Note: I like to send Thank You notes for just about reason too.

I would like to get a hand written thank you note. I think it makes it seem like you actually spent time and appreciate the gift. It doesn’t matter if you got the thank you note from Target or if they have your picture on them though.

Post # 11
6171 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LavenderBride24:  our thank you cards have our wedding logo, no picture.

we will work on cards  as soon as we get back from the honeymoon and hopefully work on 10-20 each night until they are finished.  that should get them all out relatively quickly.



Post # 12
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I will admit to harshly judging people who don’t send thank-you notes. I know, I know, it’s only a note, not worth it. But you know, after the time, effort, and money that I usually put into someone’s wedding gift, or baby gift, or even shower gift, I get annoyed when they can’t be bothered to write a simple thank-you. /rant

We haven’t had our wedding yet, but here’s our plan:

We ordered post-card style thank-you notes (not that big) that we will handwrite the thank-yous on. We will also include a nice picture as well. 🙂 We will be sure to get them out 6-8 weeks or so. Our wedding is Oct 5, so the plan is for everyone to have them *before* their Christmas cards!

Post # 13
32 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I cannot tell you how much it annoys me when I receive generic thank you cards (i.e. not hand written).

The past two weddings I attended were both out of town for a large marjority of guests. I had to travel for hours (one was a flight) and paid for hotels PLUS gifts for each. And then I got typed, one-size-fits-all thank you cards that said “Thank you for coming to our wedding and for the gift.” I find that so brutal, and I am not a stickler for etiquette by any stretch. 

For me, thank you cards are not about etiquette. They are about demonstrating appreciation and love to the most important people in your life.

For ours, I designed cards that matched our invitations. We wrote a large paragraph for each person/couple and included a photo from the wedding day. We sent them out about 6 weeks after the wedding.

Post # 14
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

In general I had a two weeks rule – sent them out within 2 weeks of the shower, and within 2 weeks of recieving any gift before or after the wedding.

For the actual wedding, I had a 4 week rule from returning from the honeymoon.

Because of this, my cards were all generic with no photos, but they were hand written.

I appreicate thank you cards most when they are hand written, specific, and relatively prompt.  Personalized ones with photos are great, but I don’t think it’s worth waiting until you get your pro photos back.  If you do that, you’ll end up seeing a lot of people from the wedding before you get the cards out, which is kind of embarassing IMO.

Post # 15
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t know what I’m sending, but I’ve generally recieved a card with a photo in it or a photo card.  I really like them.

I will probably do a card with a photo in it.  I’m planning on creating a general stationary for us with our names for all cards from us in the future so I don’t think i’ll make a photo card.

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