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If people give me cash instead of gifts from the registry, then I'll just use that cash to complete my registry purchases. So I guess either way is fine...
Yes because if I got cash i would end up using it for gas money and groceries. A lot of what I registered for I need and want, but I cant really spend the money on it. Does that make sense?
@ skibobrown: That is what I plan on doing. We'll see if I actually do it.
I voted cash.
We have some things that could use upgrading, but we have most appliances. We could get "better" flatware and glassware, but I don't like throwing things away that are perfectly good. We're also not china/crystal people. I guess I'm too practical, I'd rather add to our savings :)
This is a funny question, b/c i was shocked to find this was true for me! We weren't going to register, since we were already living together. But we got a lot of pressure from my inlaws to do so, b/c they really wanted to throw a shower (pressure to do this, too). But in the end, I really am happy we registered, because we didn't just go around picking a house full of random wish list stuff. We picked things that we needed and that were decent, and that we know we'd use. Previously, we were using our college stuff, and hand me downs that were OK, but not in the best shape. We didn't take anything back, and we've used all of our gifts constantly. We would have just put the money into savings and continued using a rusty bent disgusting cookie sheet with tin foil on it, instead of a regular non busted pan that we use now.
I voted cash.
We have some things that could use upgrading, but we have most appliances. We could get "better" flatware and glassware, but I don't like throwing things away that are perfectly good. We're also not china/crystal people. I guess I'm too practical, I'd rather add to our savings :)
I voted cash.
We have some things that could use upgrading, but we have most appliances. We could get "better" flatware and glassware, but I don't like throwing things away that are perfectly good. We're also not china/crystal people. I guess I'm too practical, I'd rather add to our savings :)
We didn't use a registry but some of the unique gifts were great because they were stuff I woudln't have ever gotten myself but for more generic stuff I prefered cash becasue we are super experts on finding deals and stretching the dollar and even using craigslist.
i wanted to get everything on our registry, so we made sure to spend our gift cards and cash on the left over stuff anyway.
The registry is in place for a reason. I would much prefer that to cash. As a guest, I never give cash for any occasion and I don't know anyone else who does either. If I received cash, I honestly would not know what to do with it. I would also feel like I wasted my time putting the registry together if no one could be bothered to use it. Most people I know feel the exact same way. I only use gift cards in dire emergencies and usually forget I have them until months or years down the road when it's too late to use them by that time at most places.
I want gifts because FI and I will end up spending the money on house payments, gas, etc, lol, and not on the kitchen items and new bedding we neeed!
This is interesting, I'm wondering if it could be a regional thing? Most weddings I have been to, the couple sets up a registry b/c they think it is expected, but most people want the cash. For this reason, I always give cash and my friends and relatives do too. (Sorry for the multiple responses on that last post)
In my neck of the woods (East Coast), people I know give gifts for the showers and give cash at the weddings. I do the same.
i prefer cash.
i have stuff i need already.
I agree with smyley. I'm from the East Coast, and most of the people I know give gifts for the shower and cash for the wedding BTW: I did get some cash presents for my shower. Odd, but I was completely cool with it.
For the Bees for whom it is normal to receive cash at the wedding, what do you register for? Like, do you bother to register for china or stemware? I can't imagine receiving all of a china pattern at a shower, for example. So do you just create registeries that are appropriate for showers?
@monitajb - i put stuff on there that we dont necessarily need but might appreciate an upgrade like sheet sets, new pillows, better toaster/panini press, etc.
i did register for everyday china and flatwear set. only because i know i have one relative that will buy the whole set for our gift. (its very inexpensive)
all stuff that if i got it i wouldnt be like "what do i do with this!?" but stuff that if given the chance i woudlnt buy myself because i would use the money for something else since i technically already have it.
@mrs pepper - i sometimes give cash for showers. one of my cousins who i knew was paying for the wedding mostly herself, i gave her cash because i knew she needed the $$.
Cash. I already have tons of kitchen stuff and what we don't have we can buy. But we would really like the cash to put towards a down payment on a house. Most people in CA give cash for weddings and gifts for showers anyways.
I agree that I'd rather get the gifts we've registered for. Cash is awesome too, but we're more likely to get things that we need if people buy off of the registry.
I know I will get gifts from the registry, because that is what is done where I live. NO ONE gives cash-I had never heard of that until I moved away. My FI and I really enjoyed registering together.
Cash. The money can be used to pay wedding expenses, go towards the honeymoon or mortgage. Where I'm from you resgister for a shower and people give cash for weddings.
Honestly, I'd rather have stuff off the registry. Otherwise, like another poster pointed out, that money will go into savings and we'll probably end up using our dirty old cake tins (or whatever) forever!
While I love all of the stuff on our registry, and I would love to get anything off of the registry as a gift, i'd have to go with cash. We are trying to save up for our first home, so any cash we receive will be going towards our down payment. My fiance is Vietnamese, so cash is the normal wedding gift. I'm really only expecting registry gifts from our friends and my side of the family, and at our shower. I'm not worried about completing our registry, the only stuff I think I would be sure to complete is our tableware.
I voted cash. Fi and I had lived on our own for several years. We bought a house this past May and while we can afford the payments, some extra cash would allow us to make extra payments and shave a couple years off the mortage.
I don't understand the comments about frittering the money away on house payments and food as though they are nonessential. You can't live in or eat "upgraded" stuff... But then, I am too practial at times.
I think it depends where you are in life. If you already live with you FI before being married and have everything you need already, you might prefer cash or a honeymoon registry, but if you're just starting out physical gifts are very helpful.
@Cassie_KY: "I don't understand the comments about frittering the money away on house payments and food as though they are nonessential. You can't live in or eat "upgraded" stuff... But then, I am too practial at times."
I agree so much! Why is PAYING FOR A HOUSE and FOOD considered bad things to spend money on, but a new toaster when you already have one and a huge coffee maker that just takes up room are good gifts? idgi.
I don't know that I have a preference, really. FI and I do live together already, but our kitchen especially is quite bare - we live in an apartment now, but are moving to a house soon, and we don't have the "stuff" to fill it up because of the size difference. So registry gifts would be nice for that.
On the other hand, money is a little tight right now, with our move, wedding, and honeymoon all happening within a month. So we could use cash to help offset some of those costs, and whatever's leftover, we could save or use on un-bought registry stuff.
They're both practical options for us.
I'm actually hoping we'll get some of each. There are things on our registry that we added because we need them (everyday china), some things we added because we want them (formal china), and some things that are dumb (FI insisted we put a paper shredder and a bread maker on there *eyeroll*). I'd be thrilled if I got my towels and my everyday china, but I'm also hoping we get some cash to blow on our honeymoon or to put away for a vacation or something. We don't usually just spend money on fun things, and I think if we pulled in some wedding dough, we'd have fun with it.
I honestly really want registry gifts. My FI and I do not currently live together, so we'll need a ton of stuff when we move in together. I'd rather have it gifted than go out and buy it ourselves.
Though of course, I won't turn my nose up at cash.
For the most part I prefer cash, but there were some things on the registry that I was really excited to get. I just wish teh people who went off-registry would have given us cash instead. We are trying to hard to save for a down payment, cash is much more useful to us than a 6th serving platter that we will never use or a framed wedding invitation.
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I guess I am just curious about how alone I am in this, but would anyone else prefer items off their registry to receiving cash?
I guess that I figure that I registered for things I would really like, but haven't made a priority to buy. If given cash, I could easily fritter it away on BS.
Anyone else have this preference? All gifts, of course, are lovely and unnecessary, IMO, it is just an expression of my preference.