Post # 1
FI and I had an interesting talk today after he tried to sneak a peek while I was grooming *ahem* my bikini area. He asked why I was hiding it from him and I just said I like my privacy for certain things like that, using the toilet, etc.
He said he doesn’t hide anything including toilet time (oh trust me, I know) and that it’s very freeing to not have boundaries.
So, I’m curious, do you endorse relationship boundaries? Obviously boundaries are different for each person and couple so for the purposes of this question it is for ANY boundaries…
Post # 3
Nope. Nothing is off limits. If he wants to watch me poop, he could. Not sure why he’d want to… but when it’s just us, no doors are closed between us.
If other couples want to endorse that, that’s totally cool. We just don’t have anything that is off limits between us.
Post # 4
For FI and I the restroom is off limits. I like my privacy and so does he. we like to keep a little mystery. 🙂
Post # 5
I try to hide some things, like I’m still not a fan of him doing my laundry and seeing my dirty underwear lol! But he always teases me and assures me not to worry about things like this, so slowly I have started to let him in more and more into my personal ‘boundries’
Post # 6
@Peachytalk: I totally know what you mean! I feel like I’ve really loosened my boundaries more than I have with anyone ever before. It does feel safe, comfortable and freeing. Though I still have some things I like to keep private. Like PP, I want to keep the mystery a bit!
Post # 7
My wife doesn’t seem to believe in boundaries. However, I do.
Post # 8
I close the door when I use the toilet, no matter what. SO will pee with the door wide open, it’s a bit weird for me lol.
We’ll shower together, but if I say I have to shave/trim myself, he’ll knock and ask if I’m finished before jumping in the shower with me. I get what you mean OP, one set of eyes down there is enough at one time lol.
Post # 9
Yes, there are certain things that should be kept private..like personal hygiene and going to the toilet.
Post # 10
The reason I refuse to ever live somewhere without two bathroom is somethings dont need to be shared. Now if one of us is sick or something, it isnt quite the same, but there is nothing the other can do to help when sitting on the toilet. Also shave alone. Shower time is my alone time and unless we are specifically wanting to spend shower time together, let a girl wash her hair in peace. Bathrooms have doors for a reason.
Post # 12
There aren’t many boundaries in my marriage but ‘personal grooming’ and going to the loo are off limits! I have no interest in seeing my husband poo! And he has no interest in seeing me! He does pee with the door wide open but only cos he finds it hilarious when I walk past unexpectedly!
We do shower together occasionally but never if we’re shaving (well, he doesn’t!) or doing anything other than washing ourselves!
Post # 13
Yes, we have boundaries, but because we agree on this sort of thing, they just evolved naturally. There are no hard, fast rules. Rather, we share the same sense of propriety.
Post # 14
@Skittles131: oh i endorse them, especially for things like the toilet, shaving my armpits, etc. In French, we have a saying that actually refers to the fact that one should not feel compelled to show just everything they do to others lol
Post # 15
The only boundary I think we have is that he’s not allowed in the bathroom when I poop. I can’t go with an audience. Sometimes he likes to mess with me and come in and sit on the counter and try to start a conversation with me.
Post # 16
Like a lot of you “#1 and #2” are completely private, doors shut fan on. Or turn around and walk away if it’s camping haha. I just turn around for shaving though, he doesn’t mind. We shower together about half the time. I think that’s the most of it, oh and I keep my period stuff to myself.
If either of us need “alone sexy time” that’s 100% cool too. A bit of mystery is good for us, in our case, I wouldn’t give up.