Post # 1
My mom tends toward the lukewarm on my FH. Now, I have to take the blame for some of this. My FH and I rarely fight, but when we do I always call my mom for support and, being my mom, she sides with me and I think feels irritated with him even after we’ve made up.
Also, I’m kind of a ‘Parent’s Girl’ (both a Daddy’s Girl and a Mom’s girl, I guess!) and I think there’s a bit of No One Is Good Enough Syndrome. They are always warm to him in person, but in private they can be a little so-so on him.
What about the other bees?
Post # 3
I think my parents would trade me for him if they could. And that makes me soo jealous since his parents (well – really just his mom) is NOT wild about me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I learned AFTER our engagement that my dad told Mr. Bruschetta when we’d been dating for a few years that HE knew he was the one — and now we just needed for me to realize that. 🙂
Post # 6
Int eh 6 years we’ve been together my parents have come to accept and respect my FI. They may not always agree with certain things, but it is clear they respect him for being so young and taking on being a stepfather to my children. In the past couple of years my mom has commended us and specifically him for being a good father figure. I think my father in particular respects the fact that he does what he can to provide for us. My ex-husband had a hard time holding down a real job. My dad thought he was lazy and with FI he sees him as a hard worker.
My mom has mentioned before that my FI would not have been what she chose for me and that stung. But, you have to do what makes you happy and I know he is what I have chosen for myself.
Post # 7
my mom knew my fi before me and tried to convince me to date him. she was there when i met him, and that whole night told me, “he owns a nice house, he has a great family, he has a good job, blah blah blah blah.” he can do no wrong!
Post # 8
My dad is not a very demonstrative, outgoing person. He can be very hard to read. Sometimes, my brothers (one in particular) don’t even realize how much my dad loves them. I think it’s different with me because I’m a girl and I’m the youngest so I’ve spent the most time with my dad. I lived with him for 5 years after my mom died.
My dad does really like my fiance, he just doesn’t show it. So my fiance isn’t so sure. Now if my mom were alive today, I’m not sure she would like him. She was a typical Italian, Catholic mother and no man would be good enough for me, especially not one that is not Italian or Catholic. Who knows though, I could be wrong.
Post # 9
My mom adores my FI and he and my dad are really good friends actually. They golf together, watch sports together, all types of stuff. I actually feel sort of bad sometimes because he seems closer to my dad than to his own!
Post # 10
Well after my last FI my parents think my guy hung the moon! LOL. But he’s hard not to like. He is just such a nice guy and fun to be around.
Post # 11
When my now FI then BF met my mom, I had been prepping him for close to a month that mom is not the friendlist/kind/warm person. Mom tends to be very matter of fact and very blunt with her words…needless to say he met my mom and she carried an hour conversation with him.
Later that evening he tells me I don’t know what you were so scared of your mom is nice. That’s when I was convinced he was someone special.
Almost 2 years later, my whole family loves him…I’m pretty sure they ask about him more than they do me.
Post # 12
not my fiancee yet, but i’ve heard talk from my cousins that my mom talks about him all the time and adores him. lol!!! and she’s told me on more than one occasion that he’s her favorite boyfriend of all of the guys i’ve dated. i say me too 😀
Post # 13
My parents and I are very different and my husband is a lot like me. They all get along and they love him dearly, they are just not close. My husband has a few stronger ideas about them but loves them for who they are and “puts” up with them… as do I! It’s hard cause we live so close to them (about an hour and a half) and so they expect us to come home a lot and like to just plan to “stop by” when they are in the City.
His parents on the other hand, would have banished him if he did not marry me! His mom knew before we did!
Post # 14
My parents definitely love my husband – and I must say they told me as a young kid, they would love whoever I loved, regardless of race, financial status, etc, and they lived up to it. My husband isn’t as intellectual as my parents, and certainly my husband and I have religious and political views that differ strongly from my parents, but overall they focus on the things they do like about him, and they respect that we are adults enough to not challenge the areas where we are different.
Post # 15
I think that if your parents/family/close friends do not like your significant other that is a HUGE warning sign. My parents LOVE my FH, and that is really important, because when you get married they should be able to integrate into your family. I think that often when you are in a relationship you get your “rose colored glasses” on, and sometimes don’t see the issues that are apparent to everyone else!
Post # 16
My parents adore him. I don’t tell my parents anything about our disagreements.When we visit, my parents really dote on him. It’s sweet.
It’s hard for me to tell because his folks are so different from mine, but I think they feel the same way about me.