Post # 1
This isn’t a personal question in the least – not pregnant and not planning on having a baby shower. But I’m curious.
Those of you who received money as a gift – what did you spend it on? For those of you who spent it on things like bills (not related to baby) – what did you write in your thank you cards? Were you honest, or did you stretch the truth?
Post # 3
This hasn’t happened to me yet (havent had a shower,) but I’m curious – does this happen often? At all the baby showers I’ve been to, I guess I wouldn’t have noticed if a card had money in it – but I thought baby showers were more gift focused, not money focused.
If this happens at my shower, if the total is less than like $100, I’m sure I won’t worry or even think about what to do with it. I’ll just write thank-yous that are like “thank you for the money” and not say anything about plans. If it ends up being a lot more than I imagine it might be, then I would definitely consider putting it in a trust fund or bank account for the baby when he is older.
Post # 4
We didn’t really receive money as in cash and checks at the baby shower, but we did get several gift cards (which we used to purchase items for the baby) and were honest in our thank you notes.
Post # 5
It may be more of a family culture/regional thing as far as gifts. I’d say of the baby showers I’ve been to, if any kind of ‘cash’-like gift was given, it was a split between cash and checks or gift cards. Then again, I’ve been to money where purely money has been given.
I’ve noticed that cash and checks tend to be more common for older gift-givers.
Post # 6
@CookieCreamCakes: I haven’t had a kid but my sister has and, while she didn’t receive CASH, she did receive a lot of gift cards. She used most for baby items after the baby was born (diapers/formula mostly. She was VERY lucky to receive just about everything on her registry). However, I know she did end up using some for food for HER when they were really broke. I figure the baby couldn’t survive if she wasn’t eating right, so I think it’s fine.
Post # 7
I’ve never really seen money given as a shower gift, but IMO if someone gives you money…it’s a gift they have no say in how you spend it you do what is best for your family. If you really need baby stuff buy it, but if you need to pay a bill you pay the bill. That’s just financial responsibility you don’t go buying stuff (even with gift money) if you have bills that need to be paid you take care of what MUST be done first.
Post # 8
We got a lot of cash from older relatives and tried to spend it on things that were directly for the baby, but some was less direct. Like, I ran out of prenatal vitamins, so I spent gift money on the next bottle. I also spent a bit on nursing tops, which are really for me, but I figured they’re baby related, so it’s close enough. The least related was spending some on photography after she got here.
Post # 9
I’m of the opinion that once somebody gives you something, it’s yours to do with as you wish (provided you don’t light it on fire and send them a picture). Go ahead and use the money for bills. I don’t think you need to spend it on anything specifically baby-related. At our engagement party, FI’s grandparents gave us a check to put toward the wedding, and as soon as we got home we split it in half and put it toward unrelated credit card bills. As far as the thank-you note goes, just say “Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift; it’s been a huge help to us as we prepare for baby.”
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m really specific about spending money for the baby on the baby. It goes into a special account, and I use it to buy things for her. It just feels wrong to do otherwise. Plus, I love being able to say, “Well, baby got a $200 check, so that money will go to decorate her nursery,” or something like that.
I will say that a friend of mine gave us a visa gift card– I intend to use that for stuff I’ll need right after delivery. I think it’s a valid use, though.
Post # 11
I don’t think you need to specify what you spent the money on in your thank you note. Especially because you will often send the thank you card well before you have a chance to spend the money. You can say something like, “thank you so much for your generous cash gift. This will be very helpful to us in preparing for the arrival of our little munchkin!”
Now, if the person gives you the $ and specifically states that the money is meant to be used toward purchasing the crib, or babies’ college fund, or some other specific purpose, then I believe you have an obligation to use the money for the intended purpose. Otherwise, use the gift however you think it will assist you the most.