Post # 1
People are passionate about kids or no kids at weddings. Personally I’m not a fan, primarily because before they’re maybe five or six they can be disruptive during a ceremony. The parents may or may not exit, while the child is fussing. And that fuss may or may not last.
I may or may not have an infant at my wedding. Again, not crazy about the idea, but it’s not a hill I want to die on, (I think).
Question is – like with many brides I’ve invested my heart and soul into the ceremony, the vows that my beloved will have written for me and me for him.
If a wee one starts fussing – what do you do, stop speaking until the fuss is over, stop speaking for a few moments then resume, speak over it more loudly, continue on as normal, continue on as normal unless it doesn’t stop?
Brides who will have children at your ceremony, how will you handle this?
Mothers, what would you expect the bride to do?
Post # 3
Good question! I think I am slightly less afraid to be obnoxious than most, so I think that if a baby/kid starts fussing during the ceremony (and it’s a time where I’m talking,) if they’re fussing for more than a few moments (like it’s obvious that the parent isn’t going to take them out!) then I MIGHT just stop and glare…
but… at my wedding, most of the babies who are invited are really close to me, like my niece, and one of my close friends (BM) baby!
Post # 4
I went to a wedding recently and a kid wouldn’t shut up and the parents had no intention of going anywhere, but I don’t think that the bride and groom even knew that it was happening because they were concentrating on the ceremony. Of course I and other guests couldn’t hear anything over the crying.
Post # 5
I am not having children at the ceremony. We have hired a babysitter to ensure that no children under 5 will be present. Once they start crying and screaming, the damage is already done. I don’t want to look back on our vows and hear a baby in the backround. I wish a lot of people would be more considerate of ceremonies. I totally understand when brides allow children, to each their own. I myself have been disappointed and agitated when I can’t hear or enjoy the ceremony because someone doesn’t have the decency to take their collicky baby outside.
Post # 6
My nephew was 8 months old at the ceremony and we were worried he would fuss or cry. We kind of said in passing to my husband’s mother to maybe hint to our SIL to maybe walk away with him until he calms down. It turned out we didn’t need to worry about anything. While we were getting ready he got so much attention and ate right before we left. He slept through the entire ceremony and woke up right in time for pictures.
Post # 7
I appreciate hearing folks’ experiences, expectations, choices – keep ’em coming
Post # 8
We had a newborn, a one year old and a two year old. The mother of the newborn breastfed right before the ceremony started, so her kid was asleep. The one year old was also asleep and the two year old is a regular at mass so she was fine.
Post # 9
We had quite a few children at our ceremony and not a one made a peep during the ceremony! In fact the only distrubtion was a person coughing!
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: there’s always at least one person who coughs! lol any time I’ve seen wedding videos or plays or anything like that, there’s always a cougher!! haha
I was recently at a wedding with my fiance and I was a bridesmaid so I was at the front of the church, but he was in the congregation and the photographers son was whining and crying that he couldn’t go be with his mom, but his dad never took him out of the church. My fiance was RIPPED! I never heard it being at the front. You will probably be too focused on your ceremony to notice too much else, but if you’re worried about others being able to hear your vows to each other, which sound like you’ve spent a lot of heartfelt time on, then maybe hire a babysitter for the small ones or mention to the parents that if the child gets fussy they should be taken out.
We are not planning to allow young (less than 5) children at our wedding, which is a little awkward right now with 4 of our guests currently pregnant and due this fall or early in the spring.
Post # 11
I didn’t even notice anyone during the ceremony except for my Darling Husband. I only had 3 babies at my wedding (they were all family) and I don’t remember any of them crying. But if they did, I was talking solely to my Darling Husband so I probably wouldn’t stop saying my vows to him. And our ceremony was outside, so I noticed (while walking down the aisle) one of the mothers was standing up at the back rocking her baby so it would stay quiet. But once I was with my Darling Husband, the whole world shut out. I’m not even sure if the guests could even hear our vows. Oh well 🙂