I have a 15 month old daughter and I never even attempted to breastfeed her.
I’ve never posted on the boards for babies in WB, so I’m not sure how much I’ll be flamed or not, but here is why I chose not to:
I went back to work at 6 weeks PP
I am a DDD chest as is
I suffer from bouts of depression and didn’t want the added stress of breastfeeding
My fiance worked nights, I worked days. Our opposite schedules made life hard and I was going to be on my own most nights, and I wanted to be able to sleep for work the next day, and breastfeeding likely wouldn’t allow that
The idea of having a baby attached to my breast just wasn’t something I was comfortable with (this was not really a deciding factor, but more something I realized later in my pregnancy).
In the end, I did battle PPD, my daughter had acid reflix and was colic, and lactose sensitive. She was on ready to feed Nutramigen only until she was 13 months, toddler formula for another 2 months, and has been on whole cow’s milk for the last week or so.
No mom should ever feel ashamed of formula feeding. My daughter has been sick only twice in her life, and once was a stomach bug her daddy gave her. She is not over weight, she eats solid food like a champ, and is developmentally perfect.
I still bonded with my daughter. I often fed her skin-to-skin, and looked into her eyes and touched her while she ate. Our only challenges were late in the afternoons when her colic set in.
Don’t let the fear of how others judge you if you will breastfeed or not. Also, there is nothing that says you have to exclusively breastfeed or formula feed – can do you both if you want. Only do what is comfortable to you, and discuss it with your SO. Only the two of you can decide what is best for your family. If you do try BFing and it doesn’t work out, that’s okay. If you choose to formula feed from the getgo, that’s okay, too. Best of luck to you!