Curious, those who chose not to breastfeed

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’m planning on breastfeeding, but my mom didn’t breastfeed me. She says it was because she was in the Air Force at the time and working around men all day and didn’t want to be pumping/”leaking” breast milk in front of them. I don’t know how valid that concern is, but it is what she said.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

I had a breast reduction several years ago. I’m planning on trying to breastfeed when we have children, but one of the side effects of the surgery is the possibility that it may make it impossible to breast feed. If that’s the case, I will bottle feed and I think that is a fine choice too. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Me and FI aren’t TTC for at least three years, but when we do have kids I don’t think I’ll bf. I have quite a large chest and it’s very painful much of the time – I have bruises on my ribcage and everything. I imagine that bfing will be a lot of additional pain and changes in shape/size, and they’re painful enough already without messing with them!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

happyhealthy87:  My mom was the same. Being a woman in the military means acting like a man. You won’t get sympathy or special treatment if you have to pump or your breasts leak. It makes you look weak. My mom decided she didn’t want to deal with it when she had my sisters and I and none of us were breastfed.

OP I don’t have kids yet but I have no plans to breastfeed. My breasts are already H sized, I have no interest in them being larger and heavier for an extended period of time. Also I don’t like the idea of my life being controlled in that way…If I go out with friends or something some evening I dont want to have to deal with my breasts hurting or leaking or worry about what my kid might be getting based on my actions from the night before. 

A lot of lactivist type mom’s probably read that and think I’m selfish, but I’m okay with that. I was never breastfed and my mom had a healthy social life and I never felt less loved or less connected to her because of it

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I didn’t decide to go straight to formula, we lasted 6 weeks BF’ing.  It was a hard, emotional, up-hill battle. It was extremely painful, she would feed for 1 hour+ and then still be upset (we later learned she has a milk intolerance and her reflux certainly was not helping).  At 4 weeks I was becoming very depressed from being in pain and dealing with an upset baby.  I tried to exclusively pump for 2 weeks, that was also painful and I was becoming more depressed.

DH and I had a heart-to-heart and we decided that we needed to do what was best for both baby and me. We switched to formula (there was brief guilt) and everything did a 180.  Baby was happy, I was no longer depressed and there have been no regrets since.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My best friend didn’t BF either of her two kids. The first she had just graduated high school and was in college so she didn’t have the time/maturity and had a few (valid) concerns about how it would affect that. Plus she just wasn’t interested. She didn’t so the second either just because she had already raised a formula fed baby and didn’t care either way. Plus she was a DD and didn’t want them to get bigger.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My milk supply never really came in. My son was born 7 weeks early.  He also was tongue tied and never really latched properly.  I lasted about 6 months with BF/bottle BF milk.  We did a mixture of both BF milk and formula and then switched to all formula when I finally dried up

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

awakemysoul:  I’m not a parent yet, but I will try to BF (and hope I can) even though I’m large chested…have to admit a bit freaked out after seeing other’s responses. My mom was not allowed to BF me because I needed to drink exactly 2oz. a feeding.  I don’t remember why. She also couldn’t BF my little sister because only one formula didn’t upset her stomach and make her a cranky baby. My sister was never able to BF because she didn’t produce enough milk for my niece. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Im still bf my 14 month old and I love it, hes been such a healthy baby! Breastmilk is the best for babies, dont mean to offend anyone but I think everybody should give it a try, you form a really precious bond with your baby also!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I wanted to try breastfeeding but promised myself I wouldn’t drive myself crazy over it if I couldnt. At the hospital, DD was losing too much weight quickly as I struggled to breastfeed so the doctors basically pushed me to at least supplement with formula. I tried pumping once I got home but I just never really produced enough so we gave in and switched to formula. I don’t regret it as she has thrived on it. I know with our next child I will try breastfeeding again but am totally okay with not being able to. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

christinah24:  Why would you even bother to respond to this thread since it so clearly does not apply to you? It’s mothers like you that fuel mommy wars. As long as the kid is fed and cared for, that’s all that matters. Get off your breast is best high horse and re-read the thread. Nowhere does the OP ask what sanctimommies think of breastfeeding. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I have a 15 month old daughter and I never even attempted to breastfeed her.

I’ve never posted on the boards for babies in WB, so I’m not sure how much I’ll be flamed or not, but here is why I chose not to:

I went back to work at 6 weeks PP

I am a DDD chest as is

I suffer from bouts of depression and didn’t want the added stress of breastfeeding

My fiance worked nights, I worked days. Our opposite schedules made life hard and I was going to be on my own most nights, and I wanted to be able to sleep for work the next day, and breastfeeding likely wouldn’t allow that

The idea of having a baby attached to my breast just wasn’t something I was comfortable with (this was not really a deciding factor, but more something I realized later in my pregnancy).

In the end, I did battle PPD, my daughter had acid reflix and was colic, and lactose sensitive. She was on ready to feed Nutramigen only until she was 13 months, toddler formula for another 2 months, and has been on whole cow’s milk for the last week or so.

No mom should ever feel ashamed of formula feeding. My daughter has been sick only twice in her life, and once was a stomach bug her daddy gave her. She is not over weight, she eats solid food like a champ, and is developmentally perfect. 

I still bonded with my daughter. I often fed her skin-to-skin, and looked into her eyes and touched her while she ate. Our only challenges were late in the afternoons when her colic set in.

Don’t let the fear of how others judge you if you will breastfeed or not. Also, there is nothing that says you have to exclusively breastfeed or formula feed – can do you both if you want. Only do what is comfortable to you, and discuss it with your SO. Only the two of you can decide what is best for your family. If you do try BFing and it doesn’t work out, that’s okay. If you choose to formula feed from the getgo, that’s okay, too. Best of luck to you!

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