Curly haired ladies, please help!

posted 2 years ago in Beauty
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I love my curls, and we’re actually bff. On a rare occasion my curls still get a bit frizzy, but it’s a small price to pay for loving my hair 99% of the time.

1. I don’t straighten my hair. Ever. It’s a useless endeavor for me. It looks great at first (Paul Mitchell Skinny Serum), but as soon as I start to sweat, it is game over. Unfortunately, the first place I sweat is my face (upper lip and right at my hair line), so a blowout lasts hours, at most, with me.

2. I follow the principles of the Curly Girl handbook. I treat my hair as a very delicate thing, barely washing it, conditioning it daily, using super gentle products, never using terry cloth on it, never touching it during the day, etc.

3. I exclusively use Deva Curl products. No “-ates”, “-ites”, or “-ones” in the ingredient list.

4. I also use a Deva master certified stylist. When it comes to curly cuts, Deva stylists cannot be beat. They get it. My stylist cuts my hair dry and cuts each individual curl so that it lays perfectly. It takes longer than a regular cut, but it’s worth the time.  

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have EXACTLY the same hair — i’m Irish and South Indian so it’s just a crazy, curly mess especially with the humidity this summer. Also, I have the same rules about straightening my hair — no water in the air, sky, etc anywhere near my head. My hair is also about 2 feet long.. *However* I have found my way of keeping it good looking to the point where I get compliments even after 3-4 days of not washing.

I understand that you want your hair to be straight, but I don’t even bother in the summer, I think it might be physically impossible for me (especially on a budget!) . What I do, is after I shower and wash, I put my hair in braids (or just one braid too) after slathering it with Frizz-ease and then leave it like that for a full 24 hours. I’ve gotten to a point where I can braid my hair well enough that I can wear it to work if I need. The next day, when I take it out, it’s gorgeous, straight(er), and feels so nice!

I think you’re on the right track with blowouts if you want zero frizz and much straighter hair, but I’m sure your curls are beautiful and the world would love to see them!! Also, this is a tried and true method for most people — but I think the trick is adding anti-frizz product to your hair before doing braids and then leaving them in until they are completely dry. Good luck!! 

** Note: If I don’t do the anti-frizz/braid method in the summer, I look like I’m wearing a Cher wig from the late ’70s.**

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Daizy914:  Whoo biracial hair lol! An awesome blow dryer can work wonders — I only ever air dry my hair because I’m lazy and I don’t have a wonderful blow dryer, but it works for me. Also, I started using Organix Coconut Water shampoo and conditioner about five months ago (http://www.ulta.com/ulta/browse/productDetail.jsp?productId=xlsImpprod6390407′ defer=’defer) and it is AMAZING! I have used different types of Organix , Garnier, Biolage, Redken, BigSexyHair, and various others and this is hands down THE BEST shampoo and conditioner I have ever used in my life. It makes my scalp feel lighter and makes my hair feel.. breezy? I can’t describe it, but it doesn’t weigh your head down at all. And bonus — it smells good and it’s relatively cheap compared to salon products. Also, I have noticed a change in the texture of my hair — less frizz, softer. Try it out if you haven’t, I highly recommend it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I am lucky enough that my curly hair straightens well… and stays straight through some mild humidity. (my dad is Jamaican and Panamanian, my mom… just plain old Canadian)

When I wear my hair curly, it is a process…

1. serum: usually frizz ease extra strength, or morrocan oil if I splurge when I run out

2. curl cream: again frizz ease, or Marc Anthony. This seems to keep my curls bound together, less frizz

3. Mousse: Marc Anthony for curls… it is THE only mousse I use. It’s never crunchy, and is sticky.. so it binds them even more.

When I wear it straight I use the same serum, blow dry then flat iron and I use an anti humidity serum to finsih and then an anti humidity hair spray on really rough days. 

 

Also! youtube this thing called ‘plopping’? Sounds ridiculous but girls seem to find it really works for their curls…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

lovekiss:  I’m curious – would a Deva stylist be worth it for someone with waves rather than curls? I have naturally pretty beachy waves (like a 2b or a combo wavy/s’wavy hair in Deva-speak i think)  and I’d love to get a cut that will bring them out more.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Daizy914:  Tip: Don’t rinse the conditioner totally out. Leave just a smidge in there. Also, ring your hair dry with your hands. Run a squirt of gel through your hair, and then scrunch dry with a t-shirt. Gel before drying with a t-shirt is key. After scrunching dry, then scrunch in more gel. And then leave it alone. No touching. Touching just roughs up the hair follicle, allowing moisture in and creating poof.

stephncollins:  The back of my head is more waves, and the hair around my face is more curl (yes, my hair is weird). That said, my stylist works with both textures to maximixe my look. So the hair at the back of my head is actually shorter than the hair at the front. But since the hair at the front curls up more, it all looks even when it’s dry. That’s the kind of understanding a Deva stylist has that a regular stylist may not. So I think it’s worth it to find a Deva stylist. They help you maximize what you have. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Daizy914:  Totally can. Sorry, I always forget about them because I am too lazy to spend that time in the morning. I’d rather sleep those extra minutes. 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have waist length curly hair .. yes you read that right.. waist length. I’m 100% puerto rican and my hair is curly from the root.

I pretty much never straighten my hair, but when I do I go to a dominican hair salon that specializes in blow outs for my hair type.

I exclusively follow the Curly Girl Method, for haircare. I dont shampoo and only cowash my hair with silicone and sulfate free products. research the curly girl method it should help

I use a cowash or sulfate free shampoo, then I use a silicone free rinse out conditioner right now I’m use Au Naturale Anti-Shrink Knot out Conditioner, I then use a leave in, I use Kinky Curly knot today leave in, then usually a serum, such as curly hair solutions curl keeper, followed by an alcohol free hair gel, and I usually let it air dry or blow dry with a diffuser

I cowash my hair about every 3 days<br />in between I just spray water to refresh and add more products as needed

 

For my own wedding (11 days) I will have my hair professionally blow out and styled for a complete wedding day transformation.

 

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

OP, I totally understand the stuck in the 80s feeling! When those hair styles come back in fashion, we will have it made!! (and this year’s jean jackets are giving me hope! lol)

I have super curly hair that’s highly prone to fizzing. When I lived in NY, I thought I had it under control. I alternated wash days with the Herbal Essence curls shampoo and conditioner, occassionally supplemented with the Aussie deep conditioner. I braided my hair when wet when I showered at night, wore it braid the next day with just a little Herbal Essence curl mousse to control frizziness, and then I could wear my hair down no problem the following day, then repeat. Since moving south, the humidity and water was so different, I had to change EVERYTHING and repair the damage in the meanwhile with a deep condition at a salon. (My hair became straw in my first six weeks living here using my NY regiment.) I went back to the basics. When I was little, my mom used cheap Suave shampoos and a detangler. I bought those $1 bottle of Suave shampoo and conditioner, paired with the Johnson & Johnson baby’s anti-frizz detangler cream. I later learned that my water is extremely high in chlorine and ammonia, making each washing akin to the damage of washing my hair in a public swimming pool. Where I lived in NY, I was washing with minimally treated reservoir water from the Adirondacks. Big difference. (Can’t stomach the water here to drink either.) Now, I’ve continued to use the Suave, with bi-daily washes and braiding on wash days. I’m using Tresseme curly mousse, though I bought their humidity control version on vacation and loved it, just haven’t been able to find it. I still occasionally use the Aussie deep condition.

I always air dry because I’ve had too many bad experiences with getting HUGE hair from cheap blow dryers. I’ve only had my hair straightened twice-both times by my best friend and it took an hour because of the length and thickness. Both times on low humidity days and I tried to make it last 3-4 days!

Best of luck!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Would you like your hair to be less curly on a more permanent basis? If so, I recommend using henna. It took all the curl out of my hair, and you can find a *lot* of ladies online who found the same. In fact, I had to cut my hair and stop using henna, as I had not wanted to lose my curls at all! My curls are only starting to come back now after 10 months off of henna.

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