Custody ?? Bees please read and give opinions

posted 3 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No advice but Holy SHITBALLS I hope for your childs sake you win custody. He should definetly be able to see her but that’s not cool.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I hope you can document the no car seat and him driving her without a license. His wife prying into your personal info is a form of identiy fraud, isn’t it? Idk, I’m not a lawyer, but this sounds like harassment at the least, and his motive for wanting custody is ugly, since its not to see his daughter more but to punish you. I would be sure to make that point to the judge.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just want to give you some internet hugs and wish you all the luck.  I think you have a strong case and hope you have a good lawyer.  Since your daughter is old enough to tell a judge her own wishes and what goes on that should help you a lot.  I shared a duplex with a guy who had full custody (A GUY) of his kids after his 4 year old son told the judge that when mommy came home from work she drank a bottle of rum and went to sleep on the couch so he just gave himself and his 2 year old sister a bath and put them in bed.  Every night.  Kids don’t lie about stuff like that at that age.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Scondida:  You’re going to have to be able to prove much of this in court. I don’t know how old your daughter is, but “my daughter says they yell at her” is probably not a solid basis for taking away all of his custody.

In addition, her peeping into your bank account is going to have little influence in a custody suit.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Scondida:  It really depends on the state but if you can prove he is a bad guy, then you might have some luck. I’m assuming he lost his license for a reason? Just do the best you can and take him to court!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@Scondida:  Honestly, unless there is more going on that suggests actual danger to the child, you will probably not see him cut down to supervised visitation only.  Of course, it varies a lot from state to state, but my dear friend has been dealing with this with his crazy ex who was plotting to kidnap their kid, and she still gets full joint custody – they’re just requiring family counseling as well.

My guess is that they will be required to do some sort of counseling and/or parent training.  You may be required to participate as well.  Then the court will issue a formal visitation schedule.  If there’s a lot of debate, a guardian ad litem may be appointed to interview everyone and issue a recommendation based on the best interests of the child.  50/50 is the most common custody arrangement unless one of the parents is demonstrably unfit.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I seriously hope you saved that voicemail. Best advice for you is to document EVERYTHING going forward. Everything you see, hear, everything your daughter tells you. And go talk to a decent lawyer. I used to work for a bank and what she did is so incredibly wrong. She got HERSELF fired. She has NO right to look at your accounts and you absolutely should’ve alerted the bank to this behavior, it’s unacceptable! 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Scondida:  I would also have your lawyer subpoena the records from the bank re her termination and prying, because he wants custody because she got fired, but she got fired for invading your privacy. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ps a quick search and I found  this:

Many companies collect personal information from their customers, including names, addresses, and phone numbers; bank and credit card account numbers; income and credit histories; and Social Security numbers. The Gramm-Leach-Bliley (GLB) Act requires companies defined under the law as “financial institutions” to ensure the security and confidentiality of this type of information. As part of its implementation of the GLB Act, the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) issued the Safeguards Rule, which requires financial institutions under FTC jurisdiction to have measures in place to keep customer information secure. But safeguarding customer information isn’t just the law. It also makes good business sense. When you show customers you care about the security of their personal information, you increase their confidence in your company. The Rule is available at http://www.ftc.gov/privacy/privacyinitiatives/safeguards_lr.html.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Scondida:  Again, you are going to have to be able to *prove* these things.

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