Post # 1
I hope I don’t offend anyone with this post, but I thought you might understand my slight discomfort with this situation.
I’ve been looking for a silk chuppah cover and would love to have a custom one, but many of the ones I’ve found are prohibitively expensive. Tonight I’ve been googling chuppot like there’s no tomorrow (and there may not be, since it’s now 2:30 AM) and I just found this:
They are so pretty – very much like what I envisioned. And SO reasonably priced!
So what’s the problem? Well…
On the homepage, the artist says, "My two passions in life are my faith in G-d and making art. I incorporate these two loves in what I call _Sanctuary Art_." Cool, right? I pictured the wrought-iron Hebrew letters on the bimah at the synagogue I grew up in, or maybe Torah covers. Not necessarily this:
Now, please bear with me. I am by no means opposed to other people’s religious views… I embrace them. I would like to think of myself as open-minded. I like that non-Jews use chuppot in their weddings because they see the symbolism as beautiful. Heck, I’m marrying a non-Jew. I definitely don’t check into all my vendors’ religious affiliations before signing contracts! And the woman who designs these obviously loves what she does, is really good at it, and is very committed to it. But somehow, a part of the ceremony as personal and obviously religious as the chuppah – which I’m using for religious and not aesthetic reasons – strikes me as something I should purchase from a Jewish business. Or at least not…………. do you know what I’m saying? I feel so uncomfortable writing this. Please enlighten me… and thanks for being open-minded about this post.
Post # 3
WHOAAAAAAAAAAA. I completely know what you’re saying, and I feel the exact same way. It is just a little disconcerting, that’s all. But you know what? There are plenty of custom chuppah makers out there (my mom is starting to get into the biz, even!) who will do exactly what you want, even if they aren’t Jewish. You could also try using the Alchemy tool on Etsy if you don’t find what you’re looking for. Bottom line: that’s very strange and I’d move on!
Post # 4
I totally understand too… for something so Jewishly identified as the actual chuppah, yeah…
Many of her fabrics look like batiks–can you do a little hem yourself? I don’t think these would be hard to do if you’ve got a little time and find the right fabric. I don’t know exactly what you had in mind but if it was simple like that… 🙂
I’m sewing something a bit more complicated (with a border and mitered corners) using fabric paint to paint some verses from the sheva brachot in th e middle in a circle.
If you’ve got some sewing skills or someone in your family does, I think you could do this yourself.
Post # 5
Thanks for quelling my fears, guys… I really appreciate it. I had thought about doing an Alchemy request and that’s a great idea – I can even try to get something local-ish. Thanks so much!! I will now move on. 🙂
Post # 6
Have you thought about asking your families if there are any meaningful fabrics or tallit you could use for your chuppah?
Post # 7
You’re not being offensive, but that image certainly is. In my opinion, it is the epitome of religious intolerance.
I happen to sell custom chuppahs, and I hope it’s kosher for me to chime in here.
I work with a Judaica fabric designer from the Galilee with two decades of experience and an international reputation. I also work with an embroiderer who can add custom lettering to the chuppah for just $2 per letter, in Hebrew or English.
Another idea is to use an attractive white-on-white tallit. This is not feasible if you plan to have a bunch of relatives standing under the chuppah, but otherwise a standard size tallit has plenty of room. We sew on fabric ties that can easily be removed after the wedding, and voila! – the groom has a special Shabbos tallit he will cherish for years to come.
Ben’s Tallit Shop
Post # 8
My parents built our chuppah and the cover was made out of a blanket that my great-grandmother made. I think having something sentimental like that can be really special. I married a non-Jew as well, and by making the chuppah into more of a family tradition than a religious one, I think his family felt much more comfortable.
That being said, I totally understand what you’re saying. I think you should keep looking around, you do not want to purchase this on impulse and then feel weird about it later.