Post # 1
Well the question really is, how crazy am I?
I am leaning heavily toward a custom dress. I’m a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl. I know how to dress appropriately, and I do it well, but I still prefer my jeans and flip flops. The idea of dress shopping gives me hives. I have two friends who are very very talented in dress making. One is a costume designer, another a draper for a very well known theater company and they have offered (begged) to do the dress.
I trust them completely to not put me in anything that wouldn’t look good. I don’t care much past no big flowers or bows, and shiny things kept to a minimum. I’ll have input along the way, but I plan on giving them a long lead.
Would you put this much trust in someone else?
Any pitfalls (other than hating the dress) you can think of?
Post # 3
I can see where you are coming from and I think it is awesome that you know people that are so willing to help. However, here on WB there are no less than a bjillion horror stories about “friendors” that have gone horribly wrong. Unless these are people that you in no way could ever have a falling out with, I really don’t recommend it. I am so sorry, I am not trying to burst your bubble, it just breaks my heart reading all the sad stories.
Post # 4
There are people I would totally trust to make my dress. I have one friend I would let him do his thing and give absolutely no imput. He is that good. The dress would be a showstopper beyond showstopper. Unfortunately his partner is currently in hospice so he can’t make my dress. Anyhow back to you… only you know your friends capabilities if you trust them and they have a ton of experience go for it.
Post # 5
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: No bursting at all, this is why I asked. I really appreciate your honest response.
Post # 6
It would depend on my relationship with the friend. My first concern would be to be sure that the dress would be ready in time. If they get sidetracked with their own life, things could get put off, and then last minute rushed, and you can’t scream at them like you could a store that screwed things up. Personally I’d ask for a timeline where the dress is ready well before the wedding, just to be sure.
And the other thing is money. Do they want to be paid for their service? And is there a point (after perhaps many alterations and changes) where that’s not enough reimbursement? And for the materials they would purchase, they need to be very clear on your budget so they don’t go overboard on the materials.
Deadlines and money are just tricky subjects with friends because it’s so hard to hold them responsible if things go wrong, you risk losing the friendship over it. So it would really depend on the friend, if I felt like these things wouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 7
@caybaybay: There would definitely be a contract with compensation, timing, all that spelled out. It would be as if i were a client asking for a custom dress, which they do frequently.
Thank you, you’ve given me more things to think about.