Post # 1
I’m hoping for some help/ guidance about picking 2 non-religious readings that would suit my FI and I during our ceremony.
It seems most of the nice passages I can think of have been used by friends recently, so I would love to find something “new”.
As a reference, I am a pretty big reader and read a lot and a varied collection of books growing up. FI is not so much a reader (dyslexic) so doesn’t identify with some of the super wordy passages.
I’m partial to kind of “cute” as well – for example the Dr. Seuss quotes. I loved Madeleine L’Engle growing up, but my good friend had me read that at her wedding (and apparently there is some religious connotation attached to her as well). Same with Shakespeare. I’m thinking Beatrix Potter or something classic would be cool too.
Any help Bees? I feel I must be forgetting some fantastic ones!
Post # 3
I don’t have any suggestions but am wondering the same thing! Everything I think might be good starts to fall apart on me when I read the whole passage, if that makes sense :p
Post # 4
@Caddyshack: this one had everyone in tears:
“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’
‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.
‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’
‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’
‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit
Post # 5
hmmm that is hard
I can think of a few poems – I always liked “yes I will marry you” by Pam Ares and that one by WH Auden where the stanzas end with “your my cup of tea” (dont know the name)
I’m sure there are some very sweet ones in Winnie the pooh
Post # 6
Our friend couldn’t say “skin horse” with a straight face in the Velveteen Rabbit one – this one was a big hit for us:
We also did e.e. cummings “i carry your heart”
Post # 7
We did a tree-planting ceremoy, and had a friend read a passage from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis DeBernieres:
“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is. Love is not breathless, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and that is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from the branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”
We got married almost four months ago, and we still have guests telling us how beautiful and unique our ceremony was (no one had seen a tree-planting ceremony at all!). We also had friends who got married two months after us change their readings to include this one, as they liked it so much (they asked us for permission to use it… of course we said yes!).
I have some very religious family members, one of which almost didn’t come because she did not agree with us getting married outside of a church… and even she said that the ceremony was beautiful (and she’s definitely the type who would have spoken her mind if she felt otherwise! Haha), despite not having any mention of god or bible quotes.
Best of luck to you!! 🙂