- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
The invites have already been ordered for our guest list of 44, and today I nearly had a panic attack when I made a list of all the stuff we have left to pay for. Getting married on the beach costs $10, our reception venue is free, and our officiant is $150. So we’ve already made cheap choices as much as we can.
So I made this list of cuts, and am bracing myself for arguments from family members who are either unwilling or unable to cough up the dough to have such things they deem as “necessary” for a wedding. (I refuse to ask for help; it’s our wedding, we’ll pay for it.)
1. Find a cheaper dress, like $100.
2. Plastic tablecloths instead of… well, cloth. We’re having a BBQ reception in a park picnic pavilion, and I already had to cave on the plastic dinnerware, so it’s not a huge issue.
3. Ditch decorations for the ceremony and reception, minus a flower or two in a vase for each table and the flameless tealight candles I already bought.
4. Bake/decorate the cake myself the day before the wedding.
5. Grocery store flowers. We’ll only need enough for the simple centerpieces, my bouquet, three corsages and possibly three bouts, and I’ve found YouTube tutorials on how to make those.
6. No photographer. (I can almost hear the collective gasp.) That is the toughest part to swallow for me, aside from letting go of my dress, but it’s not a necessity to get married.
7. No chairs at the ceremony, except one for FI’s grandma and two for her sisters, if they come. Standing in the sand for a half hour or so won’t be a huge hardship for everyone else, or we can make a note on our wedding website that they should bring blankets to sit on.
8. Nix alcohol.
9. No DJ or rented sound system, just borrow someone’s portable CD player and burn a ton of CDs from our MP3 collection. (Yes, I’m one of the dinosaurs without an MP3 player.)
I’m really trying to be OK with all of this and remember that those things are just extras. I’ve been buying stuff bit by bit, as much as I can, but FI is only employed part time and we haven’t been able to save anything. We didn’t want to postpone it because we’ve been together for SO LONG (13 years) and his grandmother is 82 years old and not in the best health.
I don’t have the link handy, but I’ve read this on A Practical Wedding and other sites, and it’s true: All you NEED to get married is you, your partner, an officiant, two witnesses and a marriage license. That’s all. We have all those things, minus the license, so I can do without the rest.
/first world problems
And if anyone utters the word “tacky” in this thread, so help me…