(Closed) Cutting back to a bare bones wedding, sad

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@automaticflowers:  You may be able to find a student in the area just beginning wedding photography. A friend of mine was trying to start a photography business and was shooting weddings for free or low-cost in exchange for being able to use the images to show future brides looking to hire her. You may be able to find someone in your area that has more talent than any one you know, but would not be expensive. I just saw you are in WA… where exactly? I can ask my photographer friend…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

sounds like my sister’s wedding. she had it at the park where people usually have graduation parties. the food was brats and other picnic foods. no music. just a bunch of people getting together for a good time. she pulled the whole thing off for under $800.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I would recommend trying to find a used version of your dress if you really want to go cheaper, although $375 is pretty cheap for a new dress anyway. You can definitely find something better if you go cheaper. For photography, like @love108 said maybe you can look on Craigslist and find a student who is willing to shoot for you for free/cheaper?  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I second student photographer. My mom’s only regret about her second wedding was not having a photographer. They did a potluck instead of people bringing gifts and it was a blast.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Before I got to the end of your post, I was thinking of suggesting A Practical Wedding!

I know that it’s very common to have big (expensive) weddings full of beautiful details….but you are right…..you need a groom, a bride, an officiant and that’s it.  The rest is icing on the cake.

Embrace your day and your enjoy every minute knowing that you’re having the wedding you can afford.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@automaticflowers:  Well if you change your mind, please PM me. I live in PA, but a friend lives in WA (and works as a professional wedding photog, but once did it for free to start up her business/gain clients) so I could definitely ask her. And don’t feel BAD. Students and others trying to start a business do it to gain clientele, a portfolio, etc., like internships! So please let me know if I can try to help. My friend may know of someone looking for just this experience!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You have the right attitude.My wedding is costing around $1,200 for everything.I found a brand new Alfred Angelo dress on Craigslist for 65 bucks.Just wanted you to know you are not alone..goodluck.lol

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love where your head is at – and I bet you guys are going to have an amazing wedding filled with laughter and love, the two most important things to begin any marriage with. 🙂

And as a suggestion (just because I love the moments that pictures can capture)…what about putting disposable cameras on the tables? That way you can still get some great pictures of your day from your guests, but without the cost of a photographer.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

FWIW – I have the impression that the “bare bones” wedding are just as wonderful (if not moreso) as the 100k weddings.  Its about the people celebrating with you!!  You will still have a wonderful wedding, and you will look beautiful in whatever dress you wear!!

A friend of mine gave me all of her silk flowers from her weddings so I could re-use them.  I was the MOH in her wedding (7 years ago).  For the life of me, I did not rememeber ANY of the flowers she gave me, nor did I remeber what the centerpieces looked liked.  I remember the rain (she was supposed to have an outdoor wedding), the look on her (now) husbands face when he first saw her, and the fun we had at the reception (I think there was a DJ there, but for the life of me, I could not tell you one song they played at their wedding).

Don’t worry – your wedding will be perfect in its own way, and they things you are stressing about won’t even matter a year into your marriage!!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh portfolio development is so important that people will do it for free or very little money. Don’t feel bad one bit. I knew a guy who played weddings for free and now charges 2500$ for the ceremony alone (he’s 22).

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t know, this all sounds pretty good to me! You won’t be any less married! I got married at the courthouse with friends snapping pics and it was fine. All you need are the people you love, the rest is gravy 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mrs-j-to-be:  sorry but this is a good idea in theory but does nit turn out well… Honestly at the price of disposable cameras it is a waist of money.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’ll be okay! If you’re married at the end of the day then it’s been a successful marriage. I’m also doing budget planning, it’s totally okay. 

1) You can totally find a great dress for under $100 – try consignment and thrift stores!

2) Do you even need plastic? I actually like bare tables.

3) I’m doing super cheap centerpieces – recycled glass jars (free) with paint on the inside (a few dollars for the paint) and paper flowers (a couple dollars and some time for them all).

4) I’m having a pot-luck dessert instead of a cake. Could you ask a few people to make a dessert? Then you get variety, yummy dessert and you don’t have the bake the day before the wedding. If this doesn’t appeal to you then pick a yummy/easy cake recipe and go for it!

5) Flowers are flowers no matter where they come from. 

6) I could afford one and am seriously considering not hiring a pro photog. They are not a necessity. If you want some nice bridal portraits of you and hubby you can always go to a studio or have a pro shoot some portraits outside and that is WAY cheaper than hiring a photog for the wedding day. And you can have a friend or two take non-professional pictures to remind you of the wedding day.

7)Definately let people know they can bring blankets. I would be sore standing still for half an hour but I have no problems sitting on the beach!

8) Totally okay. Would you be offended if people BYOB?

9) Make sure you have someone to organize and emcee everything and you’ll be fine. I’ve been to fairly expensive/formal weddings that didn’t have a DJ and it turned out fine.

It’s not fun but it really will be okay. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad. It’ll still be an amazing day, I guarantee.

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