Post # 1
Hello out there!
I’m not getting married for a while (due to school and financial things) but my FI and I are trying to figure out a guest list.
Assuming we’re not in college (I might be switching to a certificate so I can cut down on loans and things like that) we’re getting married in 2015. I was reading a post about $5000 and under weddings and one was about $1000 and they had 10 people. Obviously that appealed to me because we’re young and currently underemployed. I approached the subject with him and he said he wasn’t sure how to go to his family and say “hey I’m getting married but only 6 of you are invited” because his family is huge.
What do you all think I should do?
Post # 3
It’s really up to you and your fiance, it’s your day, you can do whatever you like. You really don’t have to tell ANYTHING they aren’t invited.. they will know they aren’t if they dont receive an invite.
You could do a smaller type wedding, make parents, grandparents, siblings and friends.
And leave off all the cousins, second cousins, and people you only see at the forced family reunions.
Post # 4
Or get married at the courthouse and get someone in your families to organize a potluck reception. There’s no reason to go into debt for a wedding; it’s not worth it.
Post # 5
If his family is huge, you’re not going to be able to invite them all anyways, unless you wait and save up for 10 years.
I think they will understand. It’s also not unheard of that if you make wedding plans but the parents want more people to be invited, they contribute financially to help get those people invited.
And honestly, the smallest weddings I’ve attended have been the best. You can have a vow renewal once you have money and invite them all, but for now they will understand that you guys are not able to finance a big guestlist.
Post # 6
@geekspice: I actually really like that idea. Or something similar. Thanks!
Post # 7
Will either of your parents help out with the money? I know my cousin, got married at this old barn type of place, that wasn’t known for having weddings…(but ended up being GORGEOUS)and it was really cheap, and she probably had about 50 guests. So I think there are places out there that are affordable, yet will let you have more than just 10 people. She also DIYed her own flowers like me (from Bloomsbythebox.com). So she ended up saving so much money from doing all this, so maybe you could cut the costs in other ways besides the guest list?