Cutting Down Guest List

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We started with children, simply because we didn’t want children at our wedding [if we had invited children, there would have only been like 10 in total, but some of those are the most ill behaved children i’ve ever seen in my entire life, so no thanks].

We didn’t invite anyone we’ve never met, so friends of our parents who they just wanted to invite.. or coworkers of our parents, were a no-go.

If we hadn’t talked to them [in person, phone, facebook, email] in 2 years, they didn’t get an invite either.

Post # 3
Member
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

Daenaria727:  would it be an option to do a non-meal time wedding? That way you can still invite everyone.  Ie, have a 2 pm ceremony with an appetizer, cake, punch reception right after until about 5 or 5:30?

It’s a great option to make you budget stretch further and have everyone there.

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Daenaria727:  Does that include everything? There’s alot of extra things that creep up that can add to your budget.. attire, hair/makeup, shoes, invites, save the dates, postage, decor, candles, ect.

Have you sat down and wrote down a detailed budget? That will help you get a look at what your numbers are going to look like.

Post # 6
Member
4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our guest list is 90% his side, and 10% my side. I’m working to get that list finalized by the end of the month.We are only inviting kids that we’re related to, or kids of cousins. Plus, we know that most of our friends are thrilled to have a night away from their children – so it works out.

My list is pretty much decided, as our family is small and then I j ust have my list of friends. His family is large to begin with, and then his parents know a lot of people. I know when the list was firs thrown together his mom said that a lot of them would be taken out, but that more may be added. So, we’ll see.

We want to keep it around 250 though, and I think we’ll be fine. Hopefully. I am going with the “if you haven’t met them, or neither of us have talked with them in the last couple of years – no invite”.

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