Post # 1
For one of my DIY projects I’m splicing up my mom’s old wedding dress to use the beautiful lace and the fabric. She seems totally fine with it, in fact I wanted to try it on before I cut it up so she could look at it and she was ambivalent. When I tried it on and twirled for her she laughed and remarked about how hideous it looked (quality is great, but very 50s).
So she was happy that I would be using the dress, and packed it up so I could take it home for me. I love the DIY Project I’m considering and I think it will be a wonderful way to incorporate her more into the ceremony.
But I feel so sad about it! I’ve had the dress for almost a week now, set out with scissors and my sewing machine – all ready to go. But I can’t manage to sit down and actually cut into it – its my mom’s WEDDING dress! AH!
Who knew I’d feel more sentimental about her wedding dress than she does.
Post # 3
Aw, I can understand why its so hard to do. Take your time with it. But remember, your Mother gave you permission and in the end you and she will be so emotional over the transformation. She’ll feel so honored to be able to see her dress used in the best way possible. Because there really is no use in keeping a dress in a box for years other than the chance that your daughter may want it one day.
Post # 4
i did that too, i used the ribbon for my bouquet. i felt the same way, i hated cutting it. it was a little easier because there was already a chunk taken out because my sil used it in their wedding for a square in their chuppah. i did it with my mom, and she ended up doing the cutting for me.
Post # 5
Maybe if you take a few more pictures of it you will feel better? Just remember that she is fine with it and in the end you are taking something mediocre and making it GREAT!
Post # 6
I’m dealing with a similar situation…
When my grandma died, she still had her wedding dress in it’s original box under her bed. She had always made comments about not wanting her dress to be given away – she’d rather see it burned than used for a Halloween costume…
So as the oldest granddaughter, I ended up with it. Since I really don’t want to store it (forever), I hit upon the idea of creating a clutch out of the fabric (some of which is usable, some is rotted). My mom was thrilled with the idea. She even offered to add in pieces from her wedding dress (currently residing in the barn, in it’s original box). (see a pattern here?)
Now that we’re approaching the DIY time to cut into both dresses, mom is getting cold feet. Well, alternate cold feet – one day she’s all gung ho, the next day she’s worried about “ruining” the dresses. I think it may take a glass of wine or two to get the initial cuts made.
It will be fine – for us and for you. Better to make new memories with the old dress(es) than let them sit for years and years until they are rotted and unusable in any form. Mingling the old & new memories is a great way to bring the past forward.