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    MissJay    April 23, 2011   Canada

    Is anyone else cutting out the traditional events of the wedding reception such as:

    - Bouquet/garter toss
    - Cutting of the cake (we would have a dessert table so our guests would still get "sweets")

    SO & I are thinking about cutting these out.  They aren't significant to us & we feel that they take up time & cut into the good times.  The last couple weddings I have been at only a handful of people go up for the bouquet/garter toss & there is always TONS of cake leftover.

    Is anyone else cutting these traditions out of the reception?  And would you be offended if you attended a wedding that didn't have these events in it?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss.  We did still do the cake cutting.

     
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    ms.oohlala    September 4, 2010  

    I'm thinking of cutting out the bouquet toss, the garter toss is for sure cut out. Doing the cake thing but that's just cuz i like cake :)

    I say go for it!

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    No garter toss for sure. I'd prefer to skip the bouquet toss as well. I think that's all that is considered traditional that we're cutting out of the reception, but their is plenty we're cutting out of the ceremony!

     
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    hrev2010    July 10, 2010   Des Moines, IA

    We aren't doing the bouquet/garter toss either.

     
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    ladyox    May 16, 2010  

    No tossing of anything at our wedding either.  I've never liked participating so why would I make my girls do it?  It's YOUR wedding so do what you want.

    We are cutting cake but only because it's to one thing my mom and stepmom both asked for and they don't agree on anything so it must be important to them!  So cake it is, otherwise we would have gone for a variety of desserts too. 

     
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    MarzipanMrs.    June 2009   New Jersey

    We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss.  We did do the cake cutting for the pics but we asked the band not to stop playing or announce the cake cutting.  People who cared watched but we didn't really want everyone to stop what they were doing.

     
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    butterflylover    August 14, 2010   Toronto, Ontario

    we are not doing bouquet or garter toss.  Cake cutting we are not sure we have lots of sweet for people and are not getting a wedding cake i was going to bake a small one myself now that i think of it i may not have the time so mayb a small cake with kind of detailing i want (BUTTERFLIES) to cut.  SO keeps mentioning the taste OVER the look of the cake and i keep having to say IT DOES not matter much since we will not give it to ppl to eat IT GOT TO LOOK PRETTY for pics:)

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    We're definitely not doing a garter toss (I'm not even wearing a garter, the horor!).  We're probably not doing a bouquet toss either.  We're also not being "introduced".  Those are all parts of weddings that I could personally live without.  We're definitely doing the cake cutting.  Those cute pictures of newleyweds feeding each other cake always make me swoon, so the cake cutting was a must for us.

     
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    bamm    June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010   Seoul

    No toss for us either.  I'm only 29, but all of my friends are already either very married with kids or very single...and the very single ones do not need to be reminded of this fact.

    We are cutting the cake, but that's because my mum is paying and she insisted on a traditional cake. 

     
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    gretchin405    November 13, 2010   Florida Keys

    We're doing an anniversary dance instead of the bouquet toss and garter toss.  Still doing the "ceremonial" cake cutting, but we are doing a dessert buffet of goodies for the guests and will just be cutting into a small 6" cake.  We're also skipping the champagne for the toasts...so much of that gets thrown out.  Our guests can toast with whatever drink they prefer!

     
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    VeronicaH    April 24, 2010  

    We cut the bouquet toss and garter "traditions" because I thought it would take away from our style (more towards the elegant side). We did the cake cutting, but used forks to have our first bites and no one smashed any frosting on anyone ;) We did a wine toast, and people could get whatever they wanted from the open bar if they preferred. It worked out nicely. Include the elements that you want and that fit with the style of your reception.

     

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