Post # 1
Hi there! 🙂
My hubby (30) & I (24) have been married since 2008. We TTC only 3 random months of our marriage. A full month in Nov 08, the entire month of Sep 09 & Feb ’10. l know we’ve been inconsistent, but that’s only because of my DH’s broody-ness comes and goes… He actually hasn’t felt broody or wanted to ttc since feb of 2010. Although, I’ve never been on the pill, or any other birth con troll, I’ve never been pregnant, that I know of. (there’s obviously nothing wrong with his swimmers since he has a 5 yr old). Since we TTC in early 2010, we’ve had regular, unprotected sex (atleast twice a week) for 3 years. He says, “if it happens, it happens *shoulder shrug*”. Hes obviosly not oppossed to it, but then again he doesnt want it with all his heart, because hes already a Daddy. Although he NEVER “finishes” in me, we’ve never even had an “accidental pregnancy”, with pre-cum or anything, which leaves me baffled! Some women get pregnant thaf way, at the drop of a dime. I’v. Always had regular menstural cycles from the age of 13 – every 30-32 days, but since November last year (2012) my cycles ABRUPTLY & without warning, extended to 50-56 day & I’m still experiencing these looong cycles to this very day! I’m scared that my chances of even conceiving are slipping further & further away as I get older (and now with these cycles being so long!). I am not unhealthy, or drastically overweight, I have no medical issues and have never been on any medication, drugs etc besides “ORATANE”, for my acne when I was 16. I constantly feel depressed, seeing him with his son hurts my heart so much, knowing that I might never have that. Has anyone been in the same boat as me? Had normal cycles & they e unexpectedly jumped to 50+? Has anyone ttc for a few months with no success and years passes and never even had an oopsy pregnancy? Please help, I know I should be talking to my husband about this but he is real hard headed and he seems content with just having HIS son. I pray to god I’m not infertile, a family of my own is all I’ve ever wanted. :'(
Post # 3
i had one LONG cycle and one short cycle and then another LONG one. 43 days… not really sure how to help since i’m not currently TTC/.
but i did write this.. hope it helps!
Long Irregular cycles = Pregnancy? POLL!
Post # 4
Well…first you need to have a sit down talk with your husband. It’s not going to happen if he doesn’t “finish” in you. It sounds like you may have some issues, but without comminting yourselves to fully trying, you can’t be sure. There’s been many women get pregnant with 40, 50, or even 100 day cycles, so I wouldn’t worry too much but you need to give it 100%. So 1st talk with your husband, if he doesn’t want another child, you need to make a decision on what’s more important to you – your husband or having children. *hugs*
Post # 5
@Yellow.Clover: +1 to talking it out, first and foremost. My link above was to show some success 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
My cycles rotate one long, one short. Plus, you have only TTC three individual months out of three years; your chances of getting pregnant in those short time frames is impossible for many ladies. Yes, accidents happen but they are really only a small percentage and many ladies go months or even years with the pull out method before showing up pregnant.
Otherwise, it sounds to me like he isn’t really committed to having a child right now. You say that you stop TTC when he is broody? How is that going to work while you’re pregnant? Once the baby comes and you are raising a child together? If he’s not finsihing his business inside of you, your chances of getting pregnant drop significantly and hoping for an accidental pregnancy sounds kind of scary because it seems like you’re not really committed to TTC right now.
Maybe it’s time to have a serious discussion about TTC. He obviously knows how a child is conceived since he already has a son and he is choosing not to TTC every time he pulls out.
***I will say that your story sounds exactly like my first marriage. My ex husband was 8 years older and had a school age daughter. He initially told me he wanted to have more children and he was a great father to his daughter so we got married. After the wedding, he changed his mind but it took two years of marriage for him to tell me he didn’t want any more children. The broody behavior also sounds familiar because that fits my ex to a T.
Post # 7
As PPs have said I really think you should sit down and talk to your DH about this first and foremost. But,that said, my cycles changed from an average 28-30ish days, and jumped up to a random 50 plus day cycle. Have you seen your doctor yet? My GP told me anything over 45 days is considered “abnormal” so first things I would do is go to your doctor,and they can give you more information.
NB:I was diagnosed with PCOS, and was also on acne medication as a teen but this “could” be related but also could be just coincedence(sp?)
Post # 8
I have heard Vitex helps with regulating cycles.